Problem Solving Essay – Sibling Rivalry
“Am I my brother’s keeper?” –Genesis 4:9 Anybody who has a brother or even a sister understands just what that question really means. While most families are lucky enough to have siblings who get along, some even being the best of friends, it’s very common for brothers and sisters to fight. The love/hate pendulum often swings back and forth between siblings who will get along one minute and then detest another the next so it is up to the parents to know how to balance this constant motion and know when to step in. Sibling rivalry often starts even before the second child is born, and continues as the children grow and compete for everything from toys to attention. As children reach different stages of development, their evolving needs can significantly affect how they relate to one another (KidsHealth). It can be frustrating and upsetting to watch – and hear – your kids fight one another day in and day out. Learning why they fight, when to get involved, and how to help them get along are steps that will promote peace in your household.
There are many different factors that cause siblings to fight. Siblings don't choose the family they are born into, don't choose each other, they may be of different sex, are probably of different age and temperament, and worst of all, they have to share the one person or the two people they most want for themselves, their parents (Child Development Institute, LLC). Evolving needs are a great factor in sibling squabbles, for example, toddlers are naturally protective of their toys and are learning to assert their will, which they will do at every turn. So when a baby brother/sister picks up the toddlers toy, the older sibling may react aggressively (KidsHealth). Elementary school aged children have a strong concept of fairness and equality and might not understand why siblings of other ages are treated differently (KidsHealth). Teenagers, who are developing their own sense of...
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