Q1: Should both parents go out to work when their children are young? What are your views? (O-Level Nov. 2004)
Crying, screaming and shouting were heard all around the room. Mike, a five-year-old boy, was grasping his motherâ€™s hand. The reluctance of the leaving of his mother coerced him to appeal to his mother to stay at home.
â€œMom, please! Dad is out to work. It is enough!â€ Mike begged.
Here comes a controversial social problem â€“ should both parents go out and work when the child is still young? Parents, so-called the first teachers of the children, have crucial impacts on their children. Their presence and love for the children while they are young affect the childrenâ€™s lives massively. Some parents decide that both of them will go out to work when their children are young. This arouses the deprecation.
Firstly, young children do not have the ability to live independently without the help and guidance of their parents. If both parents go out to work, there will be no one at home. Therefore, when the children meet any difficulties, problems or danger, nobody will be aware. Definitely, it is unsafe for the children. For instance, if there is a short circuit in the house, it is easy to fire the house as short circuit can cause fire. However, you may argue that the parents can hire a helper to look after the children. It is true. However, so many cases have clearly indicated the disadvantages of that option. According to the news in Chongqing, China, some domestic workers help the children to shower by putting them into washing machines, and eventually cause the deaths of children. Although the cases are not numerous, the possibility of such potential danger has never gone. Thus, with at least one of the parents at home, one can ensure that the children are safe at home.
Secondly, love form parents can never be substituted by other people. The young need the care and love form parents. With parentsâ€™ love, the young will have the courage to be brave when faced with a difficulty. Some people say that parents display their love as their children when they come after work. However, the long duration of being alone during the day time may leave a dark shadow in childrenâ€™s hearts.
Furthermore, if at least one parent says at home with the child, the parent can conduct home education for the child. To bring early education to the child is to give the child an edge in cognitive development. Of course, this job can be done by having a tutor at home. However, the tutor only teaches knowledge from the textbook. He does not provide the moral education. To be a successful man, we know that morality and a good personality are crucial.
However, I have to admit that if both parents go out to work, the children may become and better able independent to handle most of the things themselves. Inculcating independence in a child is a necessary life skill. Nevertheless, independence can be inculcated through other means like asking him to place his own order of food during an outing to Pizza Hut.
In conclusion, there are advantages to be reaped from having both parents working, the disadvantages far more outgrowth the advantages.