Sammy's Problem
1. Introduction
According to the case study, Sammy encountered some problems within her intra and interpersonal relationships. In the following parts, I would like to use a new theory-The Five Building Blocks of Self-Esteem (Borba, 1989) to analysis Sammy 's situation and follow by some comments with theoretical supporting in order to ameliorate her intra and interpersonal relationships.
2. Analyzing
The theory involved five elements: Mission, Selfhood, Competence, Affiliation and Security. i. Mission is the feeling of purpose and motivation in life. Self - empowerment through setting realistic and achievable goals and being willing to take responsibility for the consequences of one 's decisions. Sammy went to college without giving it much thought just caused by lacking of Mission. ii. Selfhood is the feeling of individuality. Acquiring self-knowledge, this includes an accurate and realistic self-description source of influence on the self. Without Selfhood, Sammy would not know what she like and dislike, then keep asking herself “Who am I?” iii. Competence represents the feeling of success and accomplishment in things regarded as important or valuable, aware of strengths and able to accept weaknesses. The reason that Sammy constantly comparing with others and feel that others are better than her is she does not know what her strengths are. Those elements above were relative to the intrapersonal problems, besides, the remain elements were correlated to the interpersonal issues.
iv. Security states the feeling of strong assuredness. Involves feeling comfortable and safe; knowing what is expected; being able to depend on individuals and situations; comprehending rules and limits. Affiliation is the feeling of belonging, acceptance, or relatedness, particularly in relationships that are considered important. Feeling approved of, appreciated, and respected by others. These two elements both concern Sammy and her family’s
According to the case study, Sammy encountered some problems within her intra and interpersonal relationships. In the following parts, I would like to use a new theory-The Five Building Blocks of Self-Esteem (Borba, 1989) to analysis Sammy 's situation and follow by some comments with theoretical supporting in order to ameliorate her intra and interpersonal relationships.
2. Analyzing
The theory involved five elements: Mission, Selfhood, Competence, Affiliation and Security. i. Mission is the feeling of purpose and motivation in life. Self - empowerment through setting realistic and achievable goals and being willing to take responsibility for the consequences of one 's decisions. Sammy went to college without giving it much thought just caused by lacking of Mission. ii. Selfhood is the feeling of individuality. Acquiring self-knowledge, this includes an accurate and realistic self-description source of influence on the self. Without Selfhood, Sammy would not know what she like and dislike, then keep asking herself “Who am I?” iii. Competence represents the feeling of success and accomplishment in things regarded as important or valuable, aware of strengths and able to accept weaknesses. The reason that Sammy constantly comparing with others and feel that others are better than her is she does not know what her strengths are. Those elements above were relative to the intrapersonal problems, besides, the remain elements were correlated to the interpersonal issues.
iv. Security states the feeling of strong assuredness. Involves feeling comfortable and safe; knowing what is expected; being able to depend on individuals and situations; comprehending rules and limits. Affiliation is the feeling of belonging, acceptance, or relatedness, particularly in relationships that are considered important. Feeling approved of, appreciated, and respected by others. These two elements both concern Sammy and her family’s
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