Relationship is the connection between two or more people or groups and their involvement with each other. Relationship can be created through blood or feelings toward each other, whether the relationship is between two or more life forms or between a life form and an object. The following will reveal relationship as depicted in Hayden’s “Those Winter Sundays”, Roethke’s “My Papa’s Waltz”, and Cisnero’s “Barbie-Q” and the ramifications of sacrificial, spontaneity, and obsession. Robert Hayden’s “Those Winter Sunday” tells the story about how relationship does not have to be showed off, that it’s not about telling the other person on the relationship know what good deeds they do for them, but relationship is where one would sacrifice what they are able to in order to make the other end to live a happy life. The poem reflects back on the speaker’s youth life, where he found his father was a very hardworking yet a very gentle and sacrificial person: I’d wake and hear the cold splintering, breaking.
When the rooms were warm, he’d call,
and slowly I would rise and dress,
fearing the chronic angers of that house,
Speaking indifferently to him,
who had driven out the cold
and polished my good shoes as well.
What did I know, what did I know (Hayden 496).
Everyone knows that every morning person is most likely hard workers, especially if they wake up in the morning on a weekend. The first stanza in Those Winter Sundays symbolizes that the father is the backbone of the family who give his all in order for the family to survive the cold winter weather: “Sundays too my father got up early
and put his clothes on in the blueblack cold,
then with cracked hands that ached
from labor in the weekday weather made
banked fires blaze. No one ever thanked him” (Hayden 496).
A father is the person who has the capabilities of supporting the family. Even though he must be tired from working all week long, he still wakes up early on the weekend so he can warm the house up by lighting the furnace early in the morning before everyone else wakes up. Although the father work hard for the family, that is not the only sacrifices he made for them. It is shown where the speaker said “… polished my good shoes as well” (Hayden 496). Every loving father always knew what to do in order to make their kids happy, even if it’s just a simple stuff like polishing the kid’s shoes. A father who would polish their kids shoes is a very caring and sacrificial father, because of the fact that he has a spare time to do that despite the fact of him being busy for work and he can be an example to be followed by the kids too, where the kid will grow up to be just like him. Those Winter Sundays convey a picture of a journey the speaker’s has to gone through, although he wrote this piece when he was already a grown up man, he has to go through life obstacles to figure out about his father’s sacrifice when he is old, “The last two lines of Hayden’s poem provide some relief of weight of the proceeding lines in one way and, in another way, seal in the great hurt of the recollection. It is a relief for the reader to know that the child of the poem has escaped the despondency of ‘Those Winter Sundays.’ And, with the distance, there is at least some recognition of those past as being touched with some tenderness that was then impossible to know clearly” (Gallagher 246-47). Even though the speaker’s father done all the sweet things he could have done during the speaker’s youth, nobody ever noticed about the sacrifice he made. “The final stanza focuses on the internal conflict of the speaker who wonders ‘What did I know, what did I know/of love’s austere and lonely offices?’ The repetition of ‘what did I know’ opens many emotional possibilities ranging from utter regret to bitterness. Also, the evocative adjectives ‘austere and lonely’ combined with the word ‘offices,’ suggests a dutiful love at best” (readwritethink 1). At this point of the poem, the grown up son...
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