Ducks theory of relationship dissolution
Duck Proposed three broad categories why relationships breakup:
Pre-existing doom – Incompatibility and failure are almost predestined
Mechanical Failure – Two suitable people of goodwill and good nature grow apart and find they cannot live together (The most common cause)
Sudden Death – The discovery of betrayal or infidelity leads to immediate termination
Other factors that could also contribute were:
Predisposing personal factors – for example an individuals bad habits or emotional instabilities
Precipitating factors – for example exterior influences, such as love rivals, incompatible working hours, lack of relationship direction and attributions of blame; such as perceiving that someone else is to blame.
Lack of skills – for example being sexually inexperienced
Lack of motivation – for example perceiving inequity
Lack of maintenance – for example, spending too much time apart.
Duck believed that the psychology of break-up occurred through stages and a personal process where individuals look at how they will be perceived by friends, family and social networks.
This suggests an account of breakup comprising several parts and Duck believed it began when one partner felt sufficiently dissatisfied with the relationship over a long enough period of time to consider ending it.
The four stages were:
Intrapsychic – One partner privately perceives dissatisfaction with the relationship.
Dyadic – The dissatisfaction is discussed. If is not resolved, it moves to the next stage
Social – the breakdown is made public. There is negotiation over assets, children, finances and so on with wider families and friends becoming involved.
Grave dressing – A post-relationship view of the breakup is established; protecting self-esteem and rebuilding life towards new relationships.
Kassin found that women are more likely to stress unhappiness and incompatibility as reasons for breakup while