Community College of City University Social Science
Division of Social Sciences
Practical Psychology for Everyday life
Title: How Self-esteem and stress affected in my early teen
Student Name: Yousuf, Muhammad
Student ID: 53580163
Tutor: Johnny CHAN
I was considered one of the fattest kid in my school when I was only 15 years old and that was a fact! When I was only 11 years old I had an asthma attack and after that my medical condition was very critical and was forced to consume a large amount of steroids to keep the attack off. The other side was that the steroids were making me chubby and fatter instantly. After that I changed my school and went to a new school and that medical condition changed how I felt about myself, the general judgment just turned around. So in this report I am going to discuss the how that medical condition affected my self-confidence (self –esteem) and made my stress level just because I was fat.
Self-esteem and stress were affected most in my school making my self-esteem much lower and affecting me in the long run. While stress was not that directly part of it but it did play a big part in affecting my life.
First of all, I am going to talk about the self-esteem. ‘Self-esteem means how we value ourselves; it is how we perceive and how valuable we think we are to others. Self-esteem affects our trust in others, our relationships, our work –nearly every part of our lives’  .Basically in my opinion it means how I see myself in front of my social surroundings. Before I became fat I was one of the most popular kids in school because I am known in every school as I go that I am very funny and I never had any problems in making any new friends. Being fat changed everything for me as now I wasn’t able to express my feelings so I became from the funniest and popular to the quite chubby kid in the corner. This chubbiness affected my self-esteem very low and the effects of that self-esteem I still face it.
Some of the negative effects I would say that I was very insecure of my life .After that feeling of the insecurity I just couldn’t establish long relationship whether it was with the teacher or my friends. I was literally being perceived incorrectly, that was not the true me. Everyone was thinking I was a guy who is very snobbish and not proactive. They just didn’t know that my body image was just keeping those critical qualities locked down in my brain. For example I would always make sick leave for the physical education class because every time they weighed me and I don’t wanted anyone to know my weight because it will make things worse for me. This kind of defensive attitude didn’t help me as much as I thought it, but became more on the negative side as now I was being defensive. Not only that but if I had problems then I would just hide them and keep it to myself .For ex before all this started whenever I used to go home I used to tell my mum what happened in school, but, after that I just came home all sad and depressed. This is was the side where was social was affecting. The sense of insecurity not only took me to bad social life but also dropped my grade significantly as I was an average but that insecurity left with no motivation to study or to do anything.
The second negative effect was self-criticism. ‘Self-criticism is hypothesized to develop in individuals with cold, rejecting, and controlling parents who make their love contingent on their child’s achievements. This personality style is implicated in poor personal and social functioning and adjustment throughout adolescence and adulthood’ (Blatt, 2004). In my opinion self-criticism means that the only way to left answer all the question you are having is to criticize yourself. For example when I would see my unusual body in mirror I will just droll to myself that why am the only one for being fat? Why did I have this medical condition? Why did the GOD choose me?...
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