Premarital Sex

PRE MARITAL SEX.
SIMPLE DEFINITION:
SEX – “intercourse between a woman & a man”
PREMARITAL – “before marriage”
Premarital sex is sexual activity practiced by persons who are unmarried or before marriage.
Premarital sexuality is any sexual activity with an opposite sex partner or with a same sex partner before he/she has started a married life. The term is usually used to refer the intercourse before the legal age of a marriage.
ADDITIONS:
Sexuality is not an instrument of enjoying lustful pleasure for human beings, at least. In premarital sex, many a times, immature human beings explore the sexuality, jut out of curiosity, and might be are unaware of the consequences. Society has forbid premarital sex from the very outlook that adolescence is the time to form oneself as mature and responsible human being and not at all a time to procreate.
POINTS/CLASH:
Premarital sex may harm the mental development of adults in several forms. Premarital sexual experiences, many a times, leads to the misconception that sex is to be enjoyed at whatever ways possible. Forced premarital lovemaking because of peer pressure will lead to mental depression. Another danger is possible exchange of diseases; as premarital partners may not be aware of diseases that spread through intercourses. Getting pregnant through premarital sex is another disaster. Emotional imbalances and guilt feeling could be the result of most premarital sexual affairs.

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RESPONSE TO PM’S SPEECH

ARGUMENT ON CLASH: 1. FORCED LOVEMAKING BECAUSE OF PEERS.
“This is one of the reasons why teens nowadays tend to indulge in activities, such as sex.. in which they shouldn’t do just because they are pressured by their friends or the people around them.”

2. EXCHANGE OF DISEASE
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By Fr. William Saunders
The Catholic Church continues to teach that sexual love between a man and a woman is reserved to marriage. We find this teaching in the creation account of Genesis—Book 1, Chapter 1 of Sacred Scripture: First, God creates man in His own image and likeness, making them male and female (Genesis 1:27). In the next verse, the Bible reads, "God blessed them, saying, ‘Be fertile and multiply; fill the earth and subdue it’"(Genesis 1:28). Before the man and woman come together as husband and wife, and before they express their love as husband and wife, they are first blessed by God.
Only in marriage do we find God’s blessing upon the act of sexual love, or what is better termed, marital love. This physical expression of love in marriage is a sacred sign of a husband and wife’s covenant of love and love that they share in union with God. This marital love signifies the vows freely exchanged between each other and thereby reflects the faithful, permanent, exclusive, and self-giving love they have promised to each other and to God.
What does the Church say about premarital sex or acts of premarital sexuality?
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The Church believes that your body is perhaps the most precious physical gift that God has given you. You only have one body and it's yours for life. With that body, you can express love to another person and create human life. So, your body is a gift from God and it will be the most special gift that you can give to another person. The Church believes that a real gift is a gift FOREVER. When you give another person the gift of your body it should be a permanent gift - not a loan or an experiment but a gift and a commitment. When God says, "I love you;" it's forever and so when a man and a woman commit themselves to each other forever, they are a reflection of God's love. Thus, having intercourse before marriage or outside of marriage is going too far, too soon. Sexual intercourse is a way of giving yourself to another person as gift forever. If you love someone that way then I believe that you would want to make yourself a very special gift to that person. I do not believe that something as precious as physical love should be shared casually. A gift is special because it is intended for someone special and not shared with many people. If two people are not yet ready for or in that type of permanent, committed relationship that is the sacrament of matrimony, then sharing physical intimacy with each other is premature. It’s not bad to care about someone and love each other deeply. It’s also necessary to think about how permanently you are committing yourself to each other. If your relationship is anything less than permanent, "going all the way" and giving your whole body to each other is premature. That’s why the Church has put sexual intercourse within the bonds of marriage. Just because two people may be in a permanent relationship sometime in the future doesn’t make it O.K. for them to start acting like they married already.
CONDOM?

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On July 20th, 2001 the department of health and human services released a report co-sponsored by the Center for Disease control and other government agencies stating that condoms are only 85% effective in preventing HIV. That still leaves the possibility of a 15% infection rate. This report is public record.

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Definition of health:
Health is a state in which a person is not suffering from any illness and is feeling well. A person's health is the condition of their body and the extent to which it is free from illness or is able to resist illness.

Contention 1) Having sex with only your spouse is healthier than having sex with multiple partners. a) There are extremely lower chances of getting a STD if a person waits to have sex until they are married than if they don't. b) If a husband and wife both wait to have sex until they are married STD are impossible to get.

Contention 2) Premarital sex can lead to emotional problems that can be avoided if a husband and a wife wait to have sex until they are married. a) Partners are more likely to anger at previous sexual decisions the other has made in the past. b) Spouses are less likely to cheat on each other than unmarried partners are. c) Marriage is a stronger bond than simply dating. d) When a man and women wait to have sex until they are married there is less baggage that is brought to the relationship. e) A husband or wife will not worry about there spouse cheating on them because they know that they have enough self control to wait until they were married, the self control necessary to keep from cheating on there spouse has already been acquired.

Contention 3) Unwanted pregnancy is easier to avoid. a) Health problems that may occur from pregnancy are not a problem. b) Abortions that can be dangerous to pregnant women are not an issue. c) If a pregnant woman's boyfriend leaves her the baby is not a sole burden for the women.

Contention 4) Single parent families tend to have more problems whereas two parent families don't. a) Single mothers are poorer, have more health problems, may have more problems interacting with their children, and are more likely to suffer from stress, depression, and other emotional and psychological problems.
b) Non-resident biological fathers are at risk of losing contact with their children and are more likely to have health problems and engage in high-risk behavior.

Contention 5) People who have grown up in single parent homes are more likely to have problems. a) Children living without there biological fathers are more likely to live in poverty and deprivation, are more likely to run away from home, have more trouble in school, tend to have more trouble getting along with others, have higher risk of health problems, and are at greater risk of suffering physical, emotional, or sexual abuse. b) Teenagers living without their biological fathers are more likely to experience problems with sexual health, are more likely to become teenage parents, and more likely to offend, smoke, drink alcohol, take drugs, leave school at 16, and have adjustment problems. c) Young adults who did not grow up with there biological father are less likely to attain qualifications, more likely to experience unemployment, more likely to have low incomes, more likely be on income support, more likely to experience homelessness, more likely to be caught offending and go to jail, more likely to suffer from long term emotional and psychological problems, more likely to develop health problems, more likely to have children outside marriage or outside any partnership, and are more likely to divorce or dissolve their cohabiting unions. d) Single mothers are twice as likely as two-parent families to live in poverty at any one time (69% of lone mothers are in the bottom 40% of household income versus 34% of couples with children), and are more likely to have health, social and interaction problems. e) these patterns are likely to repeat.

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Contention 1: STDs

A. "Having sex with only your spouse is healthier than having sex with multiple partners."

Along with being unfounded, this assertion relies on an illegitimate assumption. Two people may choose to never get married and yet remain completely monogamous for the rest of their lives. [1]

B. "There are extremely lower chances of getting a STD if a person waits to have sex until they are married than if they don't."

There are also extremely low chances of getting into a car accident if you never drive a car. Look, some human activities involve certain amounts of risk. However, the risks associated with sex can be mitigated through contraception and other methods. Only the deeply irrational would choose to almost never have sex or drive cars because there are risks associated with those activities.

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Contention 2: Sex and Emotional Health

A. "Premarital sex can lead to emotional problems that can be avoided if a husband and a wife wait to have sex until they are married."

My opponent hasn't provided any compelling reasons to suppose that any of this is true. On top of this, two people can choose to be in a deeply committed and loving relationship without ever wanting to get married.

Contention 3: Sex and Pregnancies

"Unwanted pregnancy is easier to avoid [under marriage]."

I'm not sure what my opponent is trying to say. Wedding rings don't magically add to the efficacy of contraception.

Contention 4: Single Parent Households

A. "Single parent families tend to have more problems whereas two parent families don't."

This contention is based upon a plethora of irrational assumptions. People can use contraception to avoid getting pregnant. Moreover, women can still choose to get an abortion if they do accidentally get pregnant. On top of this, unmarried couples are not guaranteed to separate when they end up creating a child.

Contention 5: Single Parent Households [part 2]

My opponent's fifth contention makes the same mistakes as his fourth contention. As such, it suffers from all of the same problems.

=====> In Defense of Premarital Sex <======

Contention 1: Sex, in and of itself, is a non-moral activity.

Sex does not carry with it anything that distinguishes it from other human activities in ethical terms. It can be used maliciously (e.g. rape), and it can be used in love. The negative consequences of sex, many of which my opponent has mentioned, can all be mitigated through a variety of different means, including contraception. Avoiding sex doesn't have anything to do with the alleviation of suffering or the maximization of happiness of conscious creatures. Consequently, it is simply irrational to think that abstinence is noble in any way.

::Conclusion::

The absurd implications of my opponent's proposal simply make this resolution untenable. Two people may choose to be in a loving committed relationship and may not want to get married. Or they may be unable to get married if they're members of the same sex. [2] Being abstinent all the way until the arbitrary deadline of marriage is not normal in humans; it's not praiseworthy, and it's not morally virtuous

Danger Ahead
When kids lose their virginity before marriage, they put at risk their future ability to have children. They may also lose their enjoyment of sex with their spouse because of physical and emotional pain. Sexually transmitted diseases (STDs) can leadto infertility, cancer and lifelong regret. If kids are thinking that condoms will provide 100 percent protection from pregnancy and disease they are wrong. Not only are condoms not effective against many STDs, they never protect the heart from the emotional and spiritual pain of sex before marriage.

Pregnancy and Abortion
Teen mothers account for nearly 765,000 out-of-wedlock births and 300,000 abortions each year in America.

ADVICE
Delaying sex until marriage or abstinence is the only method supported by medical research that offers 100 percent protection from sexually transmitted diseases and early pregnancy.

True abstinence is more than just delaying sex until marriage; it is understanding the role of pure sexual relations within the context of marriage. In view of the sexually charged society we live in, it is vital for parents to talk to their teens about these issues in context.
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Talking about the issue of sex outside the context of marriage makes sex just a trivial pursuit, instead of the true spiritual, physical and emotional union of two people.