Pre-Marital Sex/Fornication Since almost everything in today’s times can be achieved in an instant, the advancements which helped in achieving an easy life promoted a no more sweat to catch lifestyle and so people’s way in dealing with daily life and relationships also come in just a snap and some things, even the most delicate, sacred and intimate like achieving pleasure is the same as cooking instant noodles. Some of us might wonder why such things, even forbidden in our society is in reality existing and is rapidly becomes the core issue especially with teenagers. The truth is how much we deny ‘sex’, it is still one of the controversial and mostly undeniable topics and it’s all because, even teenagers are actively engaged on it. We call it as “Pre-marital sex” because it is done outside marriage and we know that this is not morally right but how come in a recent survey conducted by Jeremy and his colleges,” The last one hundred years have witnessed a revolution in sexual behaviour. In 1900, only 6% of US women would have engaged in premarital sex by the age of 19, compared to 75% today. Public acceptance of premarital sex has reacted with a lag; in 1968 only 15% of women had a permissive attitude towards the act, despite the fact that about 40% of 19 year-old females had had premarital sex. The number with a permissive attitude had jumped to 45% by 1983, a time when 73% of 19 year olds were sexually experienced”… and worldwide, about 47% are actively engaged in pre-marital sex. Is it all because of the influences that are brought about by the TV, magazines, and free porn videos on the internet or is it just the curiosity of the young people’s mind? Is the moral law will weigh heavier than the world’s modern eyes? The modern world provides so much window’s for the introduction of sex among young people and this factors are seemed to be really that effective because pre-marital sex have greatly change the way modern people used to see it. Pressure which may come from parents, friends and all people have greatly hastened the welcoming of sex not in the legal age but even in an early age. Young people explore pre-marital sex just because they are out of their curiosities and have ignored the things their parents and mostly the church are saying about it and instead tried it themselves. The evolution of electronic media brought out the advancements in gadgets that helped in the fast availability of online resources. Television, film, radio, internet etc. are some channels that the youth are hooked on to and what they are watching and listening to has a great deal in forming their characters and even the ways how they think. Books and magazines are resources which should be used educationally but now, satanic authors are there writing their stuff about sex, erotic illusions and are giving the youth pictures to stimulate their minds to think always about sex until having read from the books in magazines, they are urged to do the thing so. We’re living in a corrupt, liberated and blind society where people can’t seem to identify the bad in ungodliness and that pre-marital sex is no longer considered as a sin. Bad parenting, ignorance, undisciplined and broken homes are the factors which started from an individual even in own homes which provoked in the engagement of unsafe and left out sex. Some quoted that, “why is it wrong when everybody’s doing it?” which states a complete irony and a deceitful reason to mask the negative side of doing sex at an early age and to showcase the favoured pleasure and the feeling of acceptance of everyone around them. Pre-marital sex was never been approved in our modern society however; stories of adolescent fathers and mothers come out largely and are witnessed even in our community. And this situation supports the many reasons why one should not engage in sex before marriage and they add up to one thing which is what is gained by having sex before marriage is not worth what are lose by it. And so, even if having youthful sex become more and more socially introduced, one must not be persuaded and be encourage participating just because others are doing it. It is simply just as IT IS NOT RIGHT and it WILL NEVER BE RIGHT… Sexuality between animals and humans is different. To humans, there are restrictive forms with sexuality and this are pre-marital and extramarital (Adultery) in our society unlike with the lower kingdom. There’s a strong stigma in dealing with pre-marital sex because as humans, we live in a civilized community with certain strict norms of morality and obligations on our cultures. There are risks to be considered and which should be observed and recognized. We are raised in a society where everyone longs for mutual respect to everyone around us. And that main goal of sexual restrictions is that, men and women should be treated with dignity and not as objects, instruments and enjoyment for fulfilment of lustful pleasure. And that’s why, our society from the very beginning forbid pre-marital sex because adolescence is the time to from oneself as mature and responsible human being than to procreate earlier and all the time. Wikipedia gave definition of, premarital sex is sexual is sexual activity practiced by persons who are unmarried. Historically it has been considered taboo in some cultures and religions. Since before sex has been considered that sacred but why is it now, it looks like a cheap issue. However to look at the side, sex is not just a physical act it requires intimacy because it is the way that one can be united when another person and will remain forever. When one gets married, he will find that he will never give his mate 100% of himself. Why? Because he has given a part of himself away to others and taking this lightly is not only foolish and is a plain ignorance. Real love can lead to engagement and marriage but sex before marriage can ruin the chances of knowing real love. Premarital sex tends to break up couples. Another way to look at it: rarely does a premarital sexual relationship stay together long enough to make it to marriage vows. Marriage is not about sex for those who wait and having a problem inside marriage whether it is sexual, financial or compatibility means working out together. Sex before marriage is never a test to see if a partner can be able to satisfy the needs of the other because it is not a factor; it is the intimacy to grow closer and bond together and if this will not be there can be great possibilities that someone will never have relationships on a long term basis. Also the more sexual experience the other person has had, the less “desirable" that person is. Sex is done naked, which itself is the physical intimacy of the lovers but represents their spiritual intimacy and vulnerability with one another. Sex is a way of value-affirmation, because of how much sex let’s people feel and know that they’re loved. Sex has an extreme component of desire fulfilment because of the pleasure it brings. This can also be a big disappointment because when some are asked by the question, “Do young people find sex as exciting and heavenly they thought it would be?” their answer is NO! A study of pre-marital sex relations was made in a large clinic for unwed mothers. And one question was asked to the unwed mothers, “Did you find sex experience pleasurable, disappointing or unpleasant?” almost 50 percent said it was “disappointing,” thirty percent described it as “unpleasant or revolting,” and only twenty percent said it was “pleasurable”. Under the right circumstances, sex can be an exciting and thrilling experience but outside of marriage it is disappointing. Sex at an early age is so common now that most people become ignorant about it and other people will say that if it is the in on the list, then there is no reason why one should not go with it… However, we can never agree that if just as something is popular it can be considered right. Divorce rates are at high and there’s no doubt why pre-marital sex is associated with it and the problem that caused many of it is the sex. Many men and women do not want to marry a person who has had intercourse with someone else. Many sexual relations can expose someone to sexually transmitted diseases. Prostitution is widespread along the nightclubs and streets and fellows can be carriers. Sexually transmitted diseases can cause serious infections, blindness, brain damage heart disease, permanent damage to the reproductive organs and even death because most are incurable. The transmission doesn’t end there because it can be transmitted to their children with the same devastating effects. It has been said that sex is spontaneous and is based on the passion of the moment and not on thought or reason. Young people do not worry about AIDS and other STD’s because they think it will never happen. Unfortunately, we can’t hide the real situation that it does happen to them, the young people And every day one by the thousands become are in state of shock when they discovered that they are infected by one of the dreadful sexually transmitted diseases. And so, safety is a thing to be considered when it comes to sex and not behind the ear of everyone, almost 50 percent of the people who currently have HIV are between the ages 15 and 24 as said by the WHO (World Health Organization). The use of contraceptives can’t make anyone be confident because even the use of condoms only reduces the risk of contracting HIV by 85 percent.. And so will we let ourselves be taken up by the remaining 15 percent? I strongly believe that we shouldn’t be. Experimenting sex outside marriage can lead to many possible, future big problems that may one day hard to carry or hold on to and pregnancy costs almost have of this heavy burdens. The fact is that, one can make 99 good decisions and can make a single bad one and spend the rest of life regretting it. So, we should think first before having that voice on the back of our minds be heard. Teenage pregnancy is one of the big problems of our society in which is connection with the high rates of immortality… or abortion which is a heart breaking result of doing sex at an early age and not having the security within a marriage. Most people don’t consider the emotional effects by doing pre-marital sex. We should see that sex is an emotional experience and it has a great effect on our lives in ways we can never understand how and why. After involving in pre-marital sex, we may end up having the feelings of guilt, distrust, resentment, lack of respect, tension and so much more. Sex is so special, but why are other people so much willing to share it with anyone they desire? Yes, it’s true that he/she may sleep around with different girls and guys 24/7. There are also who waits until engagement and until marriage comes into their ways. Our world is a mixed up of different views on everything. We can hear others who say that they don’t regret losing their virginity at X age, while we can also hear others who say that they regret the fact that they did not save their selves for their spouse. But to sum up, in every research, regret is more than satisfaction over pre-marital sex. Since before, having or doing this explicit acts which is having sex in a wrong way comes to the end where it is all because of our safeties, our health and the protection of unwanted pregnancies among two unmarried couples. Also to protect children who are born to parents who do not want them and to acts of possible abuse for those parents who are not prepared for them. Certainly, if we would just think of this world as pre-marital sex free… then there will be no sexually transmitted diseases, no unwanted pregnancies, there will be no unwed mothers, there would be abuse, no abortions and many more. And as what the Holy Scriptures says, abstinence from pre-marital sex is the only thing that God have forbidden on us. Abstinence from sex or to be specific is called fornication (pre-marital sex) saves lives, protects babies, gives sexual relations a proper value and most importantly abstinence from fornication pleases God. All of us are living now in age were conveniences can greatly affect our choices and much rules our decision makings in our lifestyle and socially. And arguments that favour pre-marital sex reflect this thing. These things that are not often recognized to be essential which is waiting for something, working towards, not compromising our standards, we will find the results be more satisfying. One can avoid life shattering events like those made unplanned pregnancies, broken promises, death end diseases and other negative events that one risks in engaging to pre-marital sex. Waiting for the right time is safer and much more rewarding. Furthermore, to sum-up… True love waits. If a boy or girl truly loves you, they will want the best for you. They will not want you to suffer fear of disease, unwanted pregnancy and the psychological difficulties of premarital sex. They will want to experience love with you only in the very best place of all - the love nest of marriage.
Pre-Marital Sex/Fornication
Presented to:
Ma’am Clarece Benjamin
Presented by:
Rey-an P. Javelosa BSAT-1
February 22, 2013
In partial fulfillment of the requirements in Eng2a
BIBLIOGRAPHY/INDEX
Links: http://catholiceducation.org/articles/religion/re0206.html http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20090531175248AAwQ0VC
http://www.helium.com/debates/83268-should-people-have-sex-before-marriage/side_by_side?page=6
http://www.allaboutworldview.org/premarital-sex.htm
http://www.revelife.com/726423882/a-short-deductive-argument-against-premarital-sex/#viewcomments
http://www.voxeu.org/article/premarital-sex-economic-model-its-rise-and-de-stigmatisation
Books:
Understanding True Love Volume 3 (How to be Safe)
Understanding True Love Volume 4 (Saving for Marriage)
Pre-Marital Sex/Fornication
Presented to:
Ma’am Clarece Benjamin
Presented by:
Shau’ri Faye Pacardo BSAT-1
February 22, 2013
In partial fulfillment of the requirements in Eng2a
Bibliography: February 22, 2013
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