Philippine Literature

The Philippines dating culture is a milestone of lifetime commitment and will require tons of patience and loads of effort in your part. If you are in search or want to date a Filipina then you have to have these basic requirements. Just like any long distance relationship it will eventually pass through fire to test if it is genuine. But doing all that with a Filipina, it may just be all worth your while. But what is it about the dating culture in the Philippines that make it so difficult yet sweet like honey taken from a bee hive?First you have to make a lasting impression just to catch a Filipinas' attention. That introduction is critical to be able to continue a sweet bond. If you fail to do so, then you will be branded as arrogant and will lose your chance of being able to pursue your intentions. Most Filipinas would want a direct approach of intention but it is a custom for a Filipina to "pakipot" or play hard to get. If they give in very easily they will they will lose their dignity as a woman, and their Filipina reputation goes out the window. Chat with cute and pretty Philippine girls who are online right now at http://www.filipinakisses.com

It is a culture to show that she is preserving herself for the one she really wants to spend the rest of her life with. Of course it also gives her time to significantly determine your intentions if they are true or not. You have to consider also the fact that you are not the only one who is trying to woo her. This culture also gives her ample time to figure out which ones is she going to commit herself to. Wooing a Filipina does not come on a silver platter. If she is very traditional you have to visit her at home and you are not allowed to sit beside her. On this note, you will formally meet her parents and the rest of the family. The men in the family will test you more often than not that sometimes you just have to swallow your pride. If you are serious with her then you have to. Until you get a place in the family's heart then that's where you are going stay for the meantime. When you will finally make take that place in their family it will be sweet glory on a pedestal. You will be assured also that you have the whole family to back up your relationship with her. As it was written the Philippines dating culture, all these are necessary to test your patience and measure your effort.

The Tagalog word for 'courtship' is panliligaw.A common statement by Filipino men said to Filipinas:
Gusto kitang ligawan.I want to court you.
This is to ask for permission to woo the woman. If she says no, then she is definitely not interested. If she says anything that is not a no, you have the go-ahead to try your hand at winning her affection. The traditional way of courting a Filipino woman is not to go out on a date. You have to visit her at home in the evening and talk to her in the sala (living room) with her parents watching nearby. You just chat for a few weeks. Don't dare draw close to her or they will think you are manyakis (a sex maniac).If her parents approve of your behavior, then maybe they'll allow her to go out with you if you politely ask them for permission. But there has to be a chaperone -- maybe the mother or her yaya (the paid help who raised her) or the most trusted maid of the household who will carry the umbrella to shield her ward from the sun. (You can only go out in broad daylight.)You can walk in the park or some other public place. Your goal here is to endear yourself to the chaperone so that she'll allow you some time alone with the woman of your dreams. Then maybe you could sneak a kiss on her cheek or she'll let you hold her hand. Maybe you could talk about your plans to elope and escape her strict parents. Due to the influence of Hollywood and Western culture in general, things are changing in Filipino cities. Going out on Western-style dates is now common. And a chaperone? Ay, that's so old-fashioned!
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