The Success of a Relationship: Why Individual Growth Matters
When two people start a romantic relationship, they at first show their best features to partners, in order to keep them interested. However, after a while routine sets in and it seems that there is nothing to discover. Thus, passion, that has been holding everything together, fades away and continuing the relationship may become difficult. In most cases love and romance are understood as a kind of merging of individualities of partners, when each of them seeks to fulfill their own needs at the expense of another, instead of trying to grow and develop. When one or both parts of the couple stop growing, the relationship enters a stage of stagnation that may keep them living an unhappy life, or end in a separation. “Relationships are like a dance, with visible energy racing back and forth between partners. Some relationships are the slow, dark dance of death.” (Dowling, 1979). Therefore, it is important for the success of the relationship that people constantly look for ways for individual growth.
According to recent studies, conducted in the United Kingdom of Great Britain, a focus on infidelity as the main cause for divorce has shifted onto a phenomenon called “falling out of love”. This phenomenon is reflected in the fact that there is nothing new to discover about the other person and the reasons that made them fall in love fade away as time goes by. Stated succinctly, adhering to a “comfort zone” in the relationship is rather dangerous. A steady relationship makes the importance of personal growth easily forgotten, because it seems that as everything works out on its own, there is no need to make conscious contributions. Still, the truth is that improving and taking care of yourself helps build a better and richer relationship with your partner.
The main reason why it is hard for people to keep relationships that have become insipid is that actually few of them think of personal...
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