No, you shouldn't look towards the past when you have your entire future ahead of you. But to deny it's effect on your life will only cause you to repeat your mistakes.
And avoiding those mistakes is crucial. To quote myself:
Society has certain expectations of you at certain ages (e.g. going to high school from ages 14-18, getting your first career job at 21-22, etc.). If you meet those expectations, society won't just provide, but will make sure you thrive. If you don't meet those expectations, people (society) in general will judge and even harm you.
To meet those expectations you have to do life right the first time.
-Doing Things Right the First Time (A Very Important Read)
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Trying to "fix" myself (or letting others try to fix me)
Keeping secrets (or others keeping secrets from me)
I had these secrets plans to "fix" my life (which usually involved running away to some extent which only made things worse). But there was nothing broken with me or my life (I should have just focused on having fun in life instead, not take myself so seriously). I just needed to talk to someone about my current problems and life situation. I needed to stop keeping secrets.
What about when someone else is trying to "fix" your life, especially when they are trying to do it in secret.
Well, I think your intuition will always tell you if something is up. Next, if you are certain about what you really want out of life you'll never let anyone push you away from your dream, not even for a little bit.
Chances are you let someone manipulate you because you were just drifting in life. You didn't know what you really wanted. You were used to being told what to do (probably the biggest problem for our children