I feel that although these attempts at reaching out to you have been futile, I want you to know how I feel without any expectation that you respond.
Firstly, I am deeply saddened that we have not been able to talk, and attempt to have some dialogue with the hope of closure and peace for both of us. I understand why this would be difficult for you given how our relationship ended, and I take responsibility for this. I acted out of hurt, anger, and I dug my feet in without also considering the impact on you. Instead of applying compassion and understanding towards you, I acted with only my interests at stake, and for this I am deeply sorry.
The sacrifices you made for this relationship were immense, including the decision you made to relocate to Vancouver to be with me. I let you down by not being prepared, and for not supporting you enough during the transition. I know how difficult this was for you, especially taking a job in retail, and not teaching the kinds of students you were accustomed to in Toronto. At times I felt helpless, as your frustrations grew, and instead of understanding and compassion I was focused on my own dissolving career and increasing unhappiness.
I should have trusted your judgment more. Our home was perfect, solely because of your impeccable vision and style. You were able to see what I was too stubborn and shortsighted to see. The result was a place that I loved and the nicest condo in Heritage Gate.