In my relationship with my ex-husband, I felt overpowered and controlled constantly. I developed a conflict style that focused on the need to dominate conflictual situations so that I felt heard. I felt compromise was impossible and had very little desire to oblige him to meet his needs. My scores reveal a different relationship with my former manager in that I was in a situation where I needed to achieve more of a balance with our employer/employee status, however, my scores were still proportional to my first scores. My style remained consistent in both personal and less personal situations just in a “toned down version” necessary for a work environment. …show more content…
As Hocker and Wilmont posit “having a choice of styles will enhance your chances for productive conflict” (p.145). Unfortunately, in my case continually returning to a dominating style inevitably set up each of these situations as a win-lose