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Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling: A Guide to Brief Therapy
Everett L. Worthington, Jr.

CONTENTS 1. BRIEF MARITAL COUNSELING…………………..…………………………………..…17 2. BIRD’S EYE VIEW OF HOPE-FOCUSED MARRIAGE COUNSELING ……………….28 3. USING THE STRATEGY TO PROMOTE HOPE…………. ……..……………………….45 4. APPLYING THE STRATEGY TO EIGHT AREAS OF MARRIAGE…………………….59 5. PRECOUNSELING INTERVENTIONS .………………………………….………………75 6. ASSESSMENT INVENTIONS………………..………………………………………...….84 7. INTERVENTIONS FOR DRAWING ON CENTRAL VALUES….……………....……..101 8. INVENTIONS FOR REVISIONING A CORE VISION……………………………….....111 9. INTERVENTIONS FOR PROMOTING CONFESSION & FORGIVENESS……..…..…128 10. INTERVENTIONS FOR STRENGTHENING COMMUNICATION….…………………147 11. INTERVENTIONS FOR AIDING CONFLICT RESOLUTION………………………….168 12. INTERVENTIONS FOR CHANGING COGNITION……………………………….……195 13. INTERVENTIONS FOR STIMULATING MORE CLOSENESS……………………..…213 14. INTERVENTIONS FOR CEMENTING COMMITMENT…………………………….…238 15. INTERVENTIONS FOR PROMOTING COUPLE COMMENCEMENT FOR COUNSELING………………………………………………………………………….…252 16. ESSENTIALS OF HOPE-FOCUSED MARRIAGE COUNSELING …..……………......260

Summary Secular and Christian marriage counseling resources can be found in libraries and book stores anywhere across the country. Although there is no deficit in the resources available to help couples enjoy their marital journey or assist hurting couples stay married, the effectiveness of most remains to be seen. However, judging from the current divorce rates, you wonder if at all. Hope-focused marriage is not a new concept, but it is one that Everett L. Worthington has owned and effected over the course of many years. In his recent edition of “Hope-Focused Marriage Counseling: A Guide to Brief Therapy” he again strikes a sweet spot as he continues to expound upon this concept and knocks the ball right out of the park in marriage counseling. This book mainly focuses on

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