Dan Burrell (PhD)
Liberty Baptist Theological Seminary
In Partial fulfillment
Of the requirements for the course
DSMN605 Christian Leadership
Elliot Sanchez ID (22567431)
February 18, 2011
Often many times within a church family such as Grace with over thirty five hundred partners there are bound to be conflict. Any environment whether large or small we are all people, with personalities that some time come together in a manner that does not always show the church family in the best of light. I find people look at believers as we are designed to be different and we are in a way. We as believers are called to be different, yet we are people. This transformation comes not from our doing but through the transforming power of the Holy Spirit. This paper will outline a situation at which such an instance was brought to light. The manner in which the situation was handled by the pastoral staff, and finally, the outcome from the situation as well as the change that took place due to the situation.
In order to understand the situation we must talk about the background behind the situation. A few years back Grace Covenant Church had a pastor by the name of Karrie. Pastor Karrie and my mother got along quite well. As far back as I could remember Pastor Karrie and my mother hit it off like sisters. Pastor Karrie daughter would come over to my mother’s house unannounced and stay for the day just to sit and talk. Quite often Pastor Karrie’s daughter would find herself at my mother’s house to take a load off in between classes. Pastor Karrie’s daughter Joelina was going to college located in Statesville located about five minutes away from the campus. Joelina would stay hours at a time after she was done with school. I found this to be quite out of the ordinary. Sometime my wife Jessica and I would go up there to see my mom Alba and stay for some time. We would arrive there to find Joelina already there; she would end up staying as long as I did. I remember one time she stayed there until the sun went down. I often asked myself “why would she stay here this long”? It would seem that Joelina did not want to go home. My mother kept her promise never to bring up situations that were talked about, and I know it was the hardest thing for my mother to do because she loves to talk. My mother is a talker. She can keep a person on the phone until you fall asleep and she will not even know you fell asleep.
One day my mother did break the bond of silence and confided in me on a particular situation. My mother began to unfold the situation that struck her in the heart and she did not know how to handle it. I told her that I would never speak of it, so I will honor my promise to her. Needless to say the situation came out within the pastoral staff and LEAD team in the church. It was brought to our attention due to the pastoral staff’s need for us to come together in prayer. The conflict that arose was a difference in the way things should be handled within her family by a pastor within the Grace Covenant family. A situation had broken out with Pastor’s Karrie’s daughter. The denominational hierarchy as well as the pastoral staff wanted the situation to be handled in a manner that would not bring to light a situation that could be looked upon by the church partners and the denomination as a pastor that did not know how to maintain control of their family. Here is where I have the problem with the situation and the handling of it within the denomination. People fall short all the time, that is what missing the mark is. When people in the church family miss the mark those people are not shunned or set aside as outcasts? Those people choose to confess the sin that brought them down, repent of their sin, are forgiven because God is a merciful God and they are led on a journey which leads them back to the fold of God’s arms. My question is very simple, given this...
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