Parenting is defined as rearing of a child by giving special care, love, and guidance by a parent. Parenting usually starts when couples have a beautiful creation, symbolizing their mutual love and respect with each other. When a child comes into someone's life, parenting is usually a necessity when it comes to nurturing a beautiful, and a healthy child. A lot of responsibilities, sacrifices, and hard work attached to parenting. With parenting, there are different pros and cons that either help or disrupt a child’s well-being. Usually there are three parenting styles, strict, permissive and uninvolved parenting.
The start with the strict approach to parenting, which provide children with a clear set of rules that have to be followed without question or reason. The strict parenting style gives children rules without explanations for those rules, and reinforces good behavior. Parents should make sure the way they parent their children will be positive, and not negatively affect their children. Strict parents have very strict rules that they expect to be followed unconditionally and have high expectations of their children. These parents are obedience and status oriented, and expects their orders to be obeyed. People with this parenting style often utilize punishment rather than discipline, but are not willing or able to explain the reasoning behind their rules. Punishment is often extreme. They are very demanding, but not responsive and do not express much warmth or nurturing. Strict parents do not give children choices or options. The strict parenting style have a “Do as I say, not as I do,” approach. They like military schools where the rules are strictly enforced and there is no balance.
Next, there is the most common type of parenting; which is permissive parenting. Permissive parenting is about setting limits, reasoning with kids, and being responsive to their emotional needs. This approach is common in middle class settings throughout the world. Kids raised by permissive parents are more likely to become independent, self-reliant, socially accepted, academically successful, and well behaved. Permissive parents take a different, more moderate approach that emphasizes setting high standards, being nurturing and responsive and showing respect for a child independent. Permissive parent expects maturity and cooperation, and offer children lots of emotional support. Permissive parents take a firm stand, expecting their kids to behave responsibly. Permissive parent interact better with their child. They often have both a parenting and friend relationship with their kids. Permissive parents give their children a safety, secure and loving home, whereas a child feel comfortable and able to express themselves.
The worse type of parenting is uninvolved parents. Uninvolved parents, sometimes referred to as neglectful parents, a style characterized by a lack of responsiveness to a child's needs. Uninvolved parents make few to no demands of their children and they are often uninterested, unconcerned or even completely careless. These parents have little emotional involvement with their kids. While some provide the basic needs like food and shelter, they are uninvolved in their child's lives. The degree of involvement may vary considerably. Some uninvolved parents may be relatively hands-off with their kids, but may still have some basic limits such as curfews. Others are downright neglectful or even reject their children outright. Uninvolved parents are emotionally distant from their children and offer little or no supervision. They show little warmth, love and affection towards their children and have few or no expectations or demands for behavior. These parents do not attend school events and parent-teacher conferences and may intentionally avoid their children. This type of parent are usually too overwhelmed by their own problems to deal with their children. Children raised by uninvolved parents usually learn to provide for themselves. Uninvolved parents sometime use drug with and or in front of their children.
In conclusion, raising children has always been a challenge to parents. In spite of extensive effort that some parent makes to raise their children to the best of their ability, it still presents many unanswered problems. Children learn how to become adults from the parents. We need to try our best to not allow obstacles to hinder us from becoming the best parents we can become. Successful parenting requires the parents to have some very important qualities and characteristics. There are so many characteristics and qualities of parenting, but only three of them stand out: a high sense morality, support and good leadership.