Parental Control – The Correct Approach?
It is the role of the parents to guide their child, to ensure that the child follows the right path, whatever that path may be. After all, it is the parent who possesses the greatest influence on the direction chosen by the child, and his ultimate success in life. What parent has not felt the weight of this responsibility? Too often, parents faced with the pressure to provide such guidance to their children utilize questionable parenting practices which alienate the child, and yield results contrary to their intent. Children must be allowed independence, in order to fully develop as human beings. They must be allowed their own dreams and aspirations, and the freedom to choose what they wish to be. Children raised under strict supervision lack the confidence, independence, and social development necessary to become successful members of society. By looking at the consequences of authoritarian parenting, it is clear that today’s parents must not resort to the use of authority in the raising of their children, and should instead utilize responsive parenting techniques focused on providing children with the best possible environment for personal growth.
Perhaps the most severe consequence of controlling parenting is the lack of unconditional love as perceived by the child. Warmth and affection are vital for a child’s emotional development. Children who are faced with such demands as may be made by a more authoritarian parent do not see their parents’ love as unconditional, but rather come to believe that only by meeting these demands can they secure their parents’ affection. A study published by the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health concluded that “early nurturing and warmth have long-lasting positive effects on mental health well into adulthood.”[ ] The reverse is also true. Children who don’t perceive this warmth from their parents demonstrate high levels of stress and anxiety, and a low sense of self worth....
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