Professor John Metz
20 February 2014
The Relationship with My Bedroom
I have relationships with everything around me. The relationship that matters most is with my immediate surroundings, more specifically my bedroom. My bedroom is where I can be myself, it’s where my soul is, it’s my place of peace, and it’s also where I am happy and content. Everywhere on Earth I have to pretend to be someone else. Out in public I have to pretend to that I am always happy, well prepared, and well organized. The truth is that I am not always happy, well prepared, or well organized. There are multiple times that I have not been prepared for something and I am most definitely not always well organized. My room is the only place that I am not pretending to be someone I am not. A bedroom is somewhere that you are not peer pressured by society. It’s a place where you can sit and have your own personal views and not be judged by other people. It is the only place that I can be myself at all times. The saying “home is where the heart is” is just like saying home is where the soul is. In my case my bedroom is where my soul is. My bedroom is how I want it to be. People make their homes how they want it to be. Their home is created by how they decorate their home and how they run their home. That is where the saying comes from. I decorated my room and I chose how I want it to be organized. My room is where my soul is because I put my heart into and the heart only knows what the soul wants it to. My room is my place of peace. It is where I go when I need time to think. It’s where I sleep at night and humans can only sleep where they feel at peace and safe. I make my room peaceful for me. I feel relaxed in my room because I can turn on music, watch TV, take a nap, or just because it is quite. I am happy in my bedroom because I know it is a place that I created just for me to enjoy. A bedroom is not a place that you should feel under pressure or stressed. It is a place that you should feel comforted, safe, and happy. Your room is somewhere you should be able to go to so no one can bother you. It is your own personal sanctuary. The external often is the inverse of the internal, the constant mess in my room symbolizes my internal stillness, I am happy, content, I have no need to obsessively arrange and organize the world around me in order to try and achieve an organized internal space. There is order in my chaos. My bedroom is my castle. It is the one place where I can truly be me, where I can truly relax, where I can gather my thoughts & where I feel safe. My room is a part of me, without it I would be lost, internally destroyed and vulnerable. Everything we externally create is a crystallization of something inner, an emotion. A bedroom is a crystallization of the inner "home," which is a feeling. The crystallizations are not the things themselves, but rather, devices used to try to invoke those feelings. Someone can have a room and yet still not call it a place of their own. My room is everything to me, I love being in my room and shutting the world out. My bedroom is everything to me. To allow yourself to be vulnerable during sleep you need to feel safe and secure for self-preservation. You can achieve this by putting a lock on your door. This becomes your space, if only temporarily, sometimes with a level of synthetic personalization which you can provide by dressing your room thick curtains, pictures, restful colors. When you personalize your own bedroom you tend to do it in a way which makes you feel comfortable, with things you like. So you naturally feel safe and secure and so sleep better. Over time this experience becomes reinforced so that your relationship with your bedroom encourages you to relax and be yourself. Part of your personal space. Although I have moved several times, I have finally found that one place where I can call my bedroom. The place that I decorated and the place that is mine and no one...
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