miscommunication
A Solution to your Miscommunication
Getting a divorce is a really difficult thing to go through, especially when it’s caused because of miscommunication in your relationship. With the advice I will give you from the article “Sex, Lies and Conversation”, by Deborah Tannen, you as the wife, should be able to understand that both of you are different with communication. The differences in women and men are caused because of the way they were when they were children, they usually “tend to play with children of their own gender, and their sex-separate groups have different organizational structures and interactive norms” (Tannen 1). You don’t have to get a divorce, it’s a very common misunderstanding and “once the problem is understood, improvement comes naturally…” (1). If you just get together and talk about your behaviors and differences you can fix it. You just have to realize that it is “differences as cross-cultural rather than right and wrong” (1) Women and men see things way different, and expect different things from each other.
A reason you might be having problems in your relationship can be because a misalignment of communication, where “…men [tend] to face away [and] can give women the impression they aren 't listening even when they are” (2). It’s mainly caused because of how their childhood was developed. A psychologist made videos and “found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly… [and] the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other”.(2). Therefore, when they have to deal with their couple men do the same thing they did in the video because it’s normal to them. While you, his wife, want him to look at you while you talk to him, because then you get the idea that he’s not paying attention to you. You have to understand that that’s how men are, because you have a few things that he might not understand either.
In addition, “A woman expects her husband to be
Getting a divorce is a really difficult thing to go through, especially when it’s caused because of miscommunication in your relationship. With the advice I will give you from the article “Sex, Lies and Conversation”, by Deborah Tannen, you as the wife, should be able to understand that both of you are different with communication. The differences in women and men are caused because of the way they were when they were children, they usually “tend to play with children of their own gender, and their sex-separate groups have different organizational structures and interactive norms” (Tannen 1). You don’t have to get a divorce, it’s a very common misunderstanding and “once the problem is understood, improvement comes naturally…” (1). If you just get together and talk about your behaviors and differences you can fix it. You just have to realize that it is “differences as cross-cultural rather than right and wrong” (1) Women and men see things way different, and expect different things from each other.
A reason you might be having problems in your relationship can be because a misalignment of communication, where “…men [tend] to face away [and] can give women the impression they aren 't listening even when they are” (2). It’s mainly caused because of how their childhood was developed. A psychologist made videos and “found that at every age, the girls and women faced each other directly… [and] the boys and men sat at angles to each other and looked elsewhere in the room, periodically glancing at each other”.(2). Therefore, when they have to deal with their couple men do the same thing they did in the video because it’s normal to them. While you, his wife, want him to look at you while you talk to him, because then you get the idea that he’s not paying attention to you. You have to understand that that’s how men are, because you have a few things that he might not understand either.
In addition, “A woman expects her husband to be
Cited: Tannen, Deborah. “Sex,Lies and conversation.” Blackboard. STC, 24 Jun. 2014. 1-4. Web, 3 Mar. 2014