Mean Or Meant To Be: Love Vs. Arranged Marriage?

Meant to be or have to be: Love vs Arranged Marriage
Should love come before marriage or after marriage? Many people, in their life, have contemplated if they are ever going to find the right person. They start thinking if they should get an arranged marriage. As time goes by, they change their mind because they cannot imagine the fact that in an arranged marriage, you will be marrying a stranger. So, they wait for their future lover. In America, there is a western-style marriage where the people have their own choice of who their lover/spouse is. On the other hand, there is Arranged Marriage, according to AFS Intercultural programs, it is when “The bride and groom may have not even met in person or communicated before, but their families have
This is because they are more traditional countries when dealing with marriage. Arranged Marriages can seem like forced marriage, which it practically is in a sense. “The lack of consent is what distinguishes a forced marriage from a valid marriage and emphasizes what is at the heart of the crime of forced marriage, the severe violation of individual autonomy and right to self-determination.” In recent years, there has been a decline in arranged marriage and this is, due to the fact, that parents are forcing their children to be with their “chosen one.” This results in forced marriage. The children do not have a choice on who their spouse will be, so they have no chose but to marry who their parents have chosen for them. Recent studies from the population and developmental review has shown that “arranged has declined around the world. The empirical record suggests that part of Asia and Africa have experienced substantial declines in arranged marriages…For example, In Japan, the proportion of women who had an arranged marriage fell from 60 percent.” (Allendorf, Keera; Pandian Roshan K.,2016) With this study it shows that arranged marriages are not significant, because if it really benefited the relationship, then more people would be encouraging it. If arranged marriages are decreasing, then why bother having this kind of marriage if it is causing problems with their relationship. The women are also noticing that
People know that their loved one will protect them and take care of them, when in times of trouble. In an arranged marriage, this feeling of security is lost, and women are scared throughout their relationship. The partners have no clue what their spouse’s intentions are and whether they will be in safe hands or not. This all comes around to the understanding and awareness of your partner. In a love-based marriage, the spouses know each other’s tendencies and are able to solve problems more easily because they know each other’s behavior and nature. They can share their emotional feelings with each other without doubt. When you know a person’s like and dislikes, then you are more likely to resolve the problem that occurs instead of making the situation worse because you do not know what the other person believes. In an arranged marriage there is a lack of communication because you are trying to get to know your spouse and it might get overwhelming sometimes. This results in divorces. Without the feeling of security and strong communication, why waste your time in being in this kind of relationship for the rest of your