Master Of Love Article Analysis

This is an article review of “Master of Love” written by Emily Esfahani Smith a manner and morals columnist at The New Criterion and published at The Atlantic website on June 12 2014. The “Master of Love” article is mostly about the difference between couple in romantic relationship who last long and those who don’t. I choose this article to review because the topic itself is very interesting, how couples make their romantic relationship last ever after and how they destroy it too. I’m not in a romantic relationship with anyone right now, but hopefully when the right person and the right time come, I’ll be ready because I read this article beforehand. The article corresponds with communication study of interpersonal communication and relationship
It refer mostly to the result of psychologist John Gottman and his wife Julie, also a psychologist, research. From the research that they’ve done, they separated the couples they studied into two major groups: the master and the disaster. The masters are those who succeded in maintaing their relationship after many years have passed, while the disaster failed to do the same. The clear differences in the physiology state of the masters and the disasters shows that the more physiologically active the couples were in the lab, the quicker their relationship deteriorated, because it showed that they’re in a fight or flight mode in their relationship. In a relationship one can and would make request for connection or ‘bids’, and one can respond by either ‘turning toward’(enganging the bidder) or ‘turning away’(not responding/responding minimally). The masters are those who mostly respond their partner bid by ‘turning toward’ while the disasters mostly respomd by
The article also depart from the worries the writer have of the increase of the divorce rates between couples, and seek to educate people to lessen it. The writer did an excellent job in acomplishing her intention, this article is written nicely and make it easy to understand. This article simplify the result of John and Julie Gottman research so it can be read and understood by many people. The article contributed so much to the study of interpersonal communication and relationship between couples. It encompass how they communicate with each others, the difference verbal and nonverbal message can cause. It also emphasize that conflict between couple is not really the cause of separation, but rather on how they respond to the conflict. The article basically said that the key to long term relationship is kindness and generosity, where couples will be happy in a relationship if they acquired those two. The classifying of couples into two types: masters and disasters, have made the article easy to understand, it gave a clear understanding and avoid confusion. Simply said this article said if you want to have long term relationship, become a master(dos) and avoid becoming disasters(donts). This article also analogous to the Social Exchange Theory in communication studies, that says