June 12, 2013
Marriages of Working Women
Traditionally women are known for maintaining the family and caring for the children. Nowadays the traditional lifestyle is in question, and there are more and more women that are pursuing higher degrees and setting up career paths. Highly educated, successful women are capable of doing it all, career and family life. Women are designed to take on the best of challenges, and conquer the unachievable. These individuals find the balance to keep their careers striving and families together. Many might find it impossible to have your cake and eat it too, but women find a way to devour it and add a little bit extra. Can women truly have a successful marriage and career or are they forced to choose? Feminist and even more male social psychologists press on the fact that we are constantly conflicting between traditional versus modern day roles; and are debated if women can truly have a career and family. If you notice most single women that are currently pursuing a higher education and careers aren’t married and are postponing marriage until they have established themselves (Coontz). These women that are highly educated tend to sometimes become the “breadwinner” or in other words have a higher income than their significant other. With working full time and also having to maintain the household women can get overwhelmed and feel like they are pulling all the weight. There are many different sides to the issue of how the marriage tends to go downhill or how a couple is able to make the best of teamwork and keep a stable marriage at the point in time where the woman is making more than the man.
There are more women earning PhDs who are single because they are constantly searching for a man that has the same education level as them or higher. With more women wanting to obtain that goal, men become limited; in turn causes women with PhDs to have lower marriage rates. Stephanie Coontz proves that educated, successful women do make good wives. Coontz says that women with PhDs no longer have to face a “success penalty” (2) in being married. Educated women are now more likely to marry now than previously because men now feel less threatened by their degrees and are more interested in finding a mate that is willing to share the bread winnings. This brings us to couples that actual share the workload or both partners that have a degree.
In the article, “Career Women Do Not Make Bad Wives”, the author Stephanie Coontz takes the side of that not all women make bad wives that live the life of being successful. We have surpassed the belief of the traditional woman. The idea of a woman is made to be a homemaker is old and outplayed; now we have superwomen. Coontz states that in 2001, psychologist David M. Bliss found that in a 1956 conducted survey, showed that men were more attracted to a woman that cooked, cleaned, and was neat over a woman that worked (2). By 1980 and 2005 men were ranking success and intellectual characteristics as number 5 on their most attractive list.
As of 2007, recent studies have shown that “college graduates are more likely to have egalitarian” or show equality between ideas such as sharing housework and breadwinnings. Coontz states that, “These ideas and behaviors have proven to improve martial satisfaction for both men and women (3).” Equality can play a big role in a successful relationship. As for myself, no I am not married and educated but I am currently pursing my education and in my relationship I play the role as the breadwinner but I don’t try and bring my spouse down by any means. We split everything in half, from the chores to the finances. He drops the baby off in the morning for daycare and I pick him up. When it’s time to play the bills we split everything but our personal car notes down the middle. From personal experience I don’t believe the woman as a breadwinner can ruin the relationship, I...
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