Life Is Full of Ifs and Buts
“LIFE IS FULL OF ‘Ifs’ and ‘Buts’.”
Good morning to one and all. Today I Abhinav Gupta is going to speak on the topic “Life is full of ‘Ifs’ and ‘Buts’.” Many of us have heard and even used the idiom – No ifs or buts at some point in our life. “Ifs and Buts” is a term used to describe the reasons people give for not wanting to do something. To show that you don’t wish to accept any excuses, you can tell somebody that you wish to hear no ifs or buts. We not only tell it to others, sometimes they tell it to us as well.
By now you would have guessed that I’m not going to talk about the definition of this idiom. I’ll go a little deeper and wish to share my thoughts.
Let me take the word IF first. The moment we start a sentence with this word, we are sending out vibes of doubt. We are putting condition on potential good actions by doubting that would even happen. Some examples are: 1. If I get more money, I will do more charity. 2. If I lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy. 3. If I can afford it, I would love to have that … 4. If I had more education, I would have a better job and earn more money. 5. If I have more time, I would love to do …
I can keep going on. I think you get the point. In all the above mentioned cases, happiness and peace of mind is conditional. We have trained our mind and body to accept such virtual happiness scenarios. We are okay to retrofit the outcomes in our life back to our thinking. All the above statements are crying out loud that we don’t have enough. I’m not happy. I’m not at peace. I will be IF …. And most importantly, you don’t even know who controls that IF.
To turn this statement into more positive one, I have a very simple rule. Change all IFs in your life to WHENs. So the above sentences will look like this: 1. When I get more money, I will do more charity. 2. When I lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy. 3. When I can afford it, I would love to have that …
Good morning to one and all. Today I Abhinav Gupta is going to speak on the topic “Life is full of ‘Ifs’ and ‘Buts’.” Many of us have heard and even used the idiom – No ifs or buts at some point in our life. “Ifs and Buts” is a term used to describe the reasons people give for not wanting to do something. To show that you don’t wish to accept any excuses, you can tell somebody that you wish to hear no ifs or buts. We not only tell it to others, sometimes they tell it to us as well.
By now you would have guessed that I’m not going to talk about the definition of this idiom. I’ll go a little deeper and wish to share my thoughts.
Let me take the word IF first. The moment we start a sentence with this word, we are sending out vibes of doubt. We are putting condition on potential good actions by doubting that would even happen. Some examples are: 1. If I get more money, I will do more charity. 2. If I lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy. 3. If I can afford it, I would love to have that … 4. If I had more education, I would have a better job and earn more money. 5. If I have more time, I would love to do …
I can keep going on. I think you get the point. In all the above mentioned cases, happiness and peace of mind is conditional. We have trained our mind and body to accept such virtual happiness scenarios. We are okay to retrofit the outcomes in our life back to our thinking. All the above statements are crying out loud that we don’t have enough. I’m not happy. I’m not at peace. I will be IF …. And most importantly, you don’t even know who controls that IF.
To turn this statement into more positive one, I have a very simple rule. Change all IFs in your life to WHENs. So the above sentences will look like this: 1. When I get more money, I will do more charity. 2. When I lose some weight, I can fit in that dress and be happy. 3. When I can afford it, I would love to have that …