Covey, S. (2003). 7 Habits of Highly Effective Poeple. New York: Franklin Covey Co.
Dr. Stephen R. Covey’s book is written to serve as an anchor for our lives, “enabling us to live with a sense of consistency amid change”. The habits are based on timeless, universal principles of human effectiveness. If you willing put the efforts in to following the exercises and applying the principles and habits of this book, you will reap powerful benefits in almost every aspect of your life. As the title indicates there are seven basic habits of highly effective people, however, you discover much more about how you choose to look at situations and circumstances.
“Our paradigms, correct or incorrect, are the sources of our attitudes and behaviors, and ultimately our relationships with others” – Steven R. Covey. Our paradigm is how we see the world; it influences our frame of reference based primarily on our own experiences; we see the world not as it is, but as we are – or are conditioned to see it. Sometimes our paradigms are simply dead wrong; often we feel validated by what other people tell us about ourselves. If we were once told that you are not a good student, good employee or good person, our nature if often to believe those things about ourselves even if they are not true. Humans naturally tend to live out of their memories and social mirrors which make us insecure and vulnerable; instead, Dr. Covey encourages us to change our self-map by looking internally and finding new ways of thinking.
We can shift our paradigm, by make a conscious decisions to change our attitudes and behaviors. Some examples of these decisions could be choosing to have a positive mental attitude, since this doesn’t always come naturally, we have to practice changing our thoughts and reactions until it become a more of a habit.
Principles are universal, timeless and never change;