Joint Family Vs. Nuclear Family System
The joint family
A joint family involves much more than people living under the same roof. Those of you who have experienced it will know its worth. With everyone putting in his or her part, the old joint family system could benefit everyone. Not only do your children get to live and grow with their grandparents and cousins, they also learn the value of relationship. They learn to give and take, to be patient, cooperative, tolerant and to adjust with the other family members. Have you ever wondered why some people are so good at teamwork? Well this is where it begins - at home!
The joint family system inadvertently contributes to your security, health and prosperity. This is one system that could help you to live a less stressful life style, the reason being you have a lot of people around to help you and to share your sorrows and joys.
This was just how it was long long ago…
Long ago, most if not all families lived as joint families. The joint family system helps to inculcate traditional values in children. Not only will your children know more of your relatives, your native language will be spoken much more frequently. A strong bond with your culture can be developed. All the festivals that are a part of you will be celebrated with the children gearing up weeks in advance.
The nuclear family
If you feel you need your space and cannot disrupt your routine with clashes you probably want to go with the nuclear family system. This definitely has a few benefits like helping you become independent and enables you to bring up your children the way you want without much interference. You may feel fulfillment in achieving your aspirations and in creating your self-identity but can this replace the joint family? Definitely not! A baby sitter can never fill in for the child’s grandparent. What you gain living as a joint family can never be replaced with financial gains.
There are distinct advantages and disadvantages in both the systems, but advantages far outweigh disadvantages in a joint family setup. I believe that the joint family system has several benefits and hence needs to be re-visited and looked into with all seriousness. We must consider it as a possible model for future families. However, the major gain that one derives from the nuclear family is the opportunity it provides to create an individual identity of its own, something all human beings crave for and miss it in a joint family set-up. These are two fundamentally different models of family and our efforts should be to make a synthesis of the two and create a new family model based on the joint family system. In this new model the basic and underlying concept of the joint family, where more than one family live together under one roof, would remain the same. It will incorporate changes based on the experience gained in a nuclear family and also in the ways members in the family interact with one another to lead a life of mutual co-operation and inter-dependence. If the new family model is based on the foundation of mutual respect and love for each and every member of the family, then the system will take off without any hiccup and bound to be a success. All family members should communicate openly and honestly with one another. The elders in the family must take the initiative and create the right ambience and environment for open communication. Mutual trust and the willingness to listen will help family members to open up to one another. For a joint family system to be successful in the changed scenario as it exists today, individual strengths, weaknesses and positive aspects each member brings into the family should be nurtured and acknowledged on a daily basis. The younger generation of both men and women today are highly qualified, ambitious and raring to explore the world and in the process many of them lose direction in life. It is here the elders in the family can help them to settle down in...
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