ISOLATION A LONELY ROAD
ISOLATION A LONELY ROAD
There is a difference between the unhealthful experiences of isolation from the healthful and necessary experience of occasional solitude. Having time alone is an important part of emotional maturity. Sometimes we need alone time to sort through are thoughts, distress from a busy day. In a demanding world of seven billion people, restore a connection with our own needs, goals, beliefs, values and feelings. What about people who never make a connection with others? Human beings are naturally social animals. When we find ourselves becoming isolated, we should take that as a warning sign that we turned against ourselves in some basic way. Now how can we detect and learn from not becoming emotionally isolated, socially isolated, and how does it affect marriages and relationships. When do you get help through therapy and last but not least medical view on isolation?
Emotional isolation, which may include or result in social isolation, usually involves emotional withdrawal from other people. When a person is emotionally isolated, they keep to themselves, are unable to receive emotional support from others. “SHUT DOWN” or feel numb, and cannot or do not communicate with others. Expect perhaps for the most part they behave in this manner by yelling: close the door and leave me alone! Yes we all have witness this at one point. Either with a sibling, family member, friend and sadly grown adults. Let’s go down to memory lane, we can all go back to our childhood days when are parents sat us in a corner as a form of punishment. Isolating us form the rest of the kids. Communication wasn’t really big. We all just knew if we missed behaved we either got wacked or place in time out. Of course as kids, time out always seemed better. Children then learn to suppress their feelings. Now as an adult we start to question are parent’s role and their form of discipline. The use of non affected communication and teaching children to hush up and conform to our wishes does not resolve the
problem. In the most devastating thing we do to children is denying them the freedom to express their anger and suffering. Nothing is more frightening for a child than to withdrawal of love. Along with the fear come insecurity, anxiety, confusion, anger, resentment, and low self-esteem. Suppressing their feelings, on a time out punishment is not allowing them to communicate their emotions. Not dealing with the child will deal with itself. The little monster you’re going to have in the future. How can we brain storm what will be a better out come for your family. Maybe using a different approach or more effective strategy. First giving positive reinforcement by conditioning children with positive encouragement. Reassuring them to be good. And when they misbehave remove all privileges such as toys, music, TV, video games etc. They’re really no need in teaching children to play the silent treatment or isolating them as an effective way of gaining control. Aletha Solter, P.H.D revised update in (2000) The Disadvantages of Time Out www.awareparenting.com “It is not necessary to isolate children and withdraw our love to teach them how to behave.” Keep in mind human developed traits of isolation from a young age by what they learned as a child or the conditions they were surrounding by. Social isolation is an actual physical isolation from others people, or the lack of close friends generally. Socially isolating oneself can mean staying home for days, not talking with friends or acquaintances, and generally avoiding contact with other people. It can also mean that, even it contact with others occurs, it is superficial and brief, while more meaningful, extended relationships, and especially close intimacy, is missing. Social isolation is potentially both causes and a symptom of emotional or psychological...
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