May 19, 2011
When this assignment was given out, I instantly knew exactly what relationship I wanted to analyze: my ex-boyfriend’s and my relationship. It might sound like an odd relationship to choose, seeing as he is an ex, and it might not sound like a good starting point, but let me first say he is one of my best friends right now.
Our relationship began like very few relationships do, on Facebook. In June of 2009, after I had been accepted into a Fall 2009 freshman class, a boy said hello in a message and a 4-page paper could not even touch the surface of our relationship in those past 2 years, but I will do my best to explain as much as possible. Over the next few months, the relationship evolved from Facebook messages, to the live chat, until he finally asked me for my number and the texting began. Then one summer day, my phone rang, and we had our first telephone conversation, although sparked due to a drunken impulse from the mystery man on the other end. Over the span of a few months, I learned so much about this future classmate of mine, from his music taste, to his life in Southern California, and much more. I’m not sure if I’m proud or not of how well versed I am in the subject of Computer Mediated Communication. However, no matter how I feel about our introduction and first spoken words, I would certainly say since the day I got that first Facebook message, the relationship with this boy has been nothing less than interesting.
Fast forward to October 2009, the boy was asking me to be his girlfriend and I was ecstatic. We had been dating for a short few weeks and finally wanted to make things official. Clearly we had moved from Facebook to Face-to-face communication and things had worked out well. We had so much fun together. He is one of the most energetic people I know, always entertaining his friends around him and even complete strangers. However, his love for the center of attention
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