How I speak to others depends on my relationship with the individual. When it comes to my friends I always try to be more sensitive and understanding as well as selective with what I say. I do this because a lot of my friends are short tempered like me, so I know how to come across without pushing any buttons.
When it comes to my children, I am careful about how I express emotions such as anger and frustration. I try to communicate with them as clearly as possible about whatever it is that I am mad or happy about. I always try to encourage them to tell me what may be wrong or what they may be feeling, that way I always have an open relationship with them.
Now when it comes down to my partner, I respond one of two ways. I either say exactly what comes to mind with no consideration for how they may take what I have just said. Or I just completely shut down and don’t say anything, but express myself through body language. I have learned that my communication style in my personal relationship isn’t as effective as I had believed.
Our discussion in class has really opened my eyes to some of the things I need to change about myself and how I communicate, especially with my partner. I have learned that it sometimes may be best to take a minute away from a stressful situation or discussion, and calm myself before I respond. This helps me talk with a clear open mind to what the other person has to say, rather than talking strictly through my emotions.
I’m doing my best to apply what I have learned in this classroom, to what I need to work on in my personal life in order to make it clear what I expect from those in my life. Since our discussion and