Idenity

If someone tells you, you’re ugly what type of impact would that make on you? Would it change the way you view yourself or would it roll off your back. Maybe you have been told many times that that you are very intelligent how would that impact your life and how you view yourself today? Many people say, how others view them or what someone say about them doesn’t make them who they are, but in all honesty could that be true? If numerous people tell you that you are stupid, then you will began to believe that, just like if numerous people tell you, you have a great personality, then you will began to believe that. Those questions may have your mind going. It may make you think, “what type of person am I, or who have I let make an impact on my life?” These questions revolve around your identity. Your identity is a combination of things, such as, your self-concept, self-esteem, culture, gender, and other things. One thing people don’t realize is that we have the right to allow people to impact our life and who we are. We usually allow people to say things to us (mostly negative) and we justify that to be us, even though it really isn’t. We can let words rolls off our backs, but most of the time we don’t, at least I don’t.
Thinking about identity, there are many things that I have learned about myself. I really don’t know where to start. I never realized how much I let people impact my identity. I take everything to heart that I hear people say and believe it’s true even though sometimes it isn’t. When I look in the mirror after reading about identity, all I can ask myself is “who am I.” I’ve learned from reading that I have to change my self-concept, if I change that, which won’t be easy of course, then I believe that everything in my life including my identity will fall in place. In the book Looking Out Looking In, there was a quote by Aaron Bleiberg and Harry Leubling which said, “I am not what I think I am. I am not what you think I am. I am what I think you