How To Talk To A Hunter Pam Houston Analysis

Confusion Vastly different from each other, men and women cannot seem to see eye to eye on daily activities. In relationships, particularly, the women tend to make themselves the emotional victim while men do not consider how his actions will affect the woman. In Pam Houston’s “How to Talk to a Hunter”, the woman keeps going back to her friend and talking about how terrible the man is and what gets under her skin. The woman and her friend talk about the hunter and analyse every part of the relationship and how “a man desires the satisfaction of his desire; a woman desires the condition of desiring.” Hypocritically, they fill nearly all of the female stereotypes by gossiping, over analysing and making sure they never bring up the topic of
Spending nights with this man means suffering the long face of your sheepdog, who likes to sleep on your bed, who worries when you don’t come home.
It is said that women are inclined to say that the world revolves around them, that they are more important than men, but that statement is utterly false. The friend also asks the woman if, “he was capable of living outside his gender?” This brings attention to the stereotype that being caring and thoughtful is only for women while men are incapable of those feelings. Women are typically more emotional than men and tend to show it more. Nevertheless, men do have feelings and emotions like women but for the most part, refrain from showing them.
When the woman brings up the topic of monogamy, he shuts down and talks about how, “badly he was hurt by [her] predecessor.” Even men are fearful of being hurt, people often forget that. Furthermore, when the hunter gave her chocolates as a gift, he was proud of it, while she felt rejected and that the gift was insufficient. The male friend tries to encourage her by saying, “can’t you understand that is a good sign? Can’t you understand that this proves how deep he’s in with you?” He tries to be supportive and shed light on what the hunter must have been
For instance, the woman does not understand, “why he donated money to the republican party” or listened “to top-forty country.” If she were to like country music and the republican party, she could possibly understand him much better. Sometimes people describe other as either warm or cold based on their personality. So, when she makes the subtle remark, “that his house is warmer than hers,” infers that he is more inviting, and welcoming to people. His personality seems to be open and the type of person one would freely talk with without even meaning to. He does not seem to notice how she sometimes pulls away from him emotionally and physically, while she notices, assesses, and evaluates as soon as he does. Their personalities are so opposite, their relationship will not last as long as she hopes it