Understanding Human and Relational Communication
During this course I have encounter many ways to understanding human communication. I have also read a book relating to understanding human communication called “That’s Not What I Meant” by Deborah Tannen. Today I will be disgusting about what I have learned from each book and also talk about understanding human communication and relationships. I also take examples from my and other people encounter with these situations.
In chapter one through five of the “Understanding Human Communication book, it all ties in with each other. They all explain the different types of elements that we use and what we have to deal with on a daily basis. In chapter one it talks about the different types of communication. It also talks about why we communicate and why it is important. Chapter one also includes the functions of communication, like physical and identity needs. One thing that I found in chapter one that was quite interesting was if people who lack strong relationships have two to three times the risk of early death, regardless of whether they smoke, drink alcoholic beverages, or exercise regularly (Quoted on page 6). Chapter one also talks about what makes us an effective communicator, and clarifies misconceptions about communication.
In chapter two it talks about the self, perception and communication. It talked about perceiving others and communication and identity management. After reading this chapter I learned the consequences of having different narratives. I know if I had if a narrative was explored in a similar situation I know that I and that person would often get into a competition with our narratives. I also learned that our culture plays a big role in Communication.. When you take interest in ones culture I feel most of the time that the person or group may respect you for that in which it makes the communication process different, like for instant trying new things. I also learned that sitting down talking and listening to ones problems is very helpful in relationships, this also relates to chapter four as well which is listening. I also learned how to change my perceptions in certain situations. This chapter relates to chapter one because it talks about what makes us effective communicators. It also relates to chapter one in “That’s Not What I Meant”. It relates because Deborah Tannen talks about how if her perceptions were different about how to approach her husband in certain situations the relationship would have been healthier.
In chapter three it talks about how the nature of language, like how language is symbolic and how meanings are in people, not words. Chapter three also talks about how the power of language shapes and reflects our attitudes, and also how language can create misunderstandings. In this chapter I learned the difference between powerful speech and polite speech. I also learned how to use low level abstractions. Also in this chapter I learned how to pin-point out different genders speech techniques, like there vocal tone and how loud they talk and if their speeches were powerful or not, oh and also how loud they talk. This chapter relates with chapter one and two as well. It relates with chapter 1 because without language it would be very hard to understand and be effective communicators. It relates with chapter two because without language your perceptions on people would be very confusing. This chapter also ties in with “That’s Not What I Meant” because when Deborah was asking her husband does he want to go to her sister’s, he answered okay I guess, so she told him that he didn’t sound like he really wanted to go, then from that point he just exploded ( Page 20). Just from Deborah’s husband language it went to something really simple to something rather quick. This in many relationships causes problems.
In Chapter four this chapter talks about a very key element to communication and relationships. This chapter talks listening and...
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