Good Dads: Two Faces Of Fatherhood

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In the reading Good Dads - Bad Dads. Two Faces of Fatherhood. Furstenberg Jr. focuses on the two different types of fathers that can appear in a child's life. The first type of father he focuses is on is the modern father/good dad. The modern father attains nurturing, emotionally attuned and caring qualities. The author made a point that the modern father was recently discovered, and that fathers haven’t been that involved in their child’s lives until the early 21st century. Before the modern dad arose, a father was only the provider and nothing more. The second type of father that Furstenberg Jr describes is the bad dad. The bad dad is the type of father that denies paternity to his child. He choses to ignore is parental obligations and live …show more content…
Cherlin explains that the majority of people who get married are in their late 20’s to early 30’s in the 21st century. Shockingly, divorce has ben successfully decreasing. People with higher education are less likely to get divorced according to todays statistics. Having an education seems to create a level of succession within a humans lifetime. Education also seemed to affect people who choose to live with a partner outside of marriage. Cherins research conducted that Cohabiters are more likely to have a lower education level than married people, this does not include people with same sex relationships, that unable to get married because of law restrictions. I myself believe that its extremely important to receive an education before getting married and committing yourself to someone else. Having an education helps you map our your life before you decide to make more important decisions such as marriage. It’s not surprising to see that people who cohabit have less of an …show more content…
McLanahan concludes that children who are born to educated women are gaining more resources to their every day lives. The more educated the family is, the more they are able to receive. Vise versa, the children from less educated mothers and families are gaining less resources and are unable to move forward. Education within women, particularly single moms are responsible for the changes in family formation. I concluded from McLanahan’s reading that educated mothers seem to make more of an impact on their children than educated fathers. Highly educated women are responsible for the changes in family formations and the success of their own children. Women with lower incomes tend to have children that mimic their habits within school and life. Poor mothers create less motivated children, and vise

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