11th Grade English 5/25/12
Gay marriage has been a very controversial topic between Democrats, Republicans, and people in the world as a whole. Democrats favor equal rights for the lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender community (LGBT) and believe that these people should have the right to marry and adopt children just as easily as a heterosexual couple would. Republicans, however, believe marriage should be between a man and woman and for that reason they do not support gay marriage or the adoption of a child to a LGBT household or family. Since that is the case, some states grant civil unions to gay couples but not actual marriages and these civil unions do not give even half the benefits that a marriage provides. I believe that LBGT people deserve to have their right, not privilege, of marriage, this way they can get the same marriage and financial benefits of heterosexual people without posing a threat to the institution and sanctity of marriage, they can have discrimination against them stop since they do not really have a choice in their own sexual orientation beforehand , and they should receive the right to adopt children without the fear of those children coming out the “wrong way” due to the belief that those children did not have both a male and female figure in the household.
“The General Accounting Office in 1997 released a list of 1,049 benefits and protections available to heterosexual married couples.” Most of these are not included in the simple civil unions that only a few states grant to gay and lesbian couples. These include federal and financial benefits such as social security benefits, tax benefits, and immigration benefits. Of these, the main arising issues are revolve around; saving money on insurance, raising credit scores, getting more opportunities for loans, and increasing financial stability. These financial and federal benefits run parallel with the marital benefits a heterosexual couple receives for the most part. Now the main Republican argument here is that by giving lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender people benefits, like joint ownership and the right to make medical decisions for a spouse, we would be weakening the institution and sanctity of marriage and opening the door to things like two male friends getting married together to avoid paying increased taxes. Republicans also believe that by allowing gay marriage, people will step up and try to marry all sorts of things that they love, such as animals and objects. I disagree with that like most Democrats would, and I happen to find that to be absolutely discriminatory towards gays because Republicans are comparing the love of two people, to a person who loves an animal or object and that itself can be classified by a psychological disorder. Personally speaking, I think marriage should be based on love and if two people love each other it should be their business and their right to get married and start a family together. A common definition of marriage that I follow is “a union of two individuals based upon mutual love, affection, commitment and attraction.” Several lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender couples share all those emotions with one another and with that being said, I think it is completely reasonable for two or two women to get married without pangs being brought forth by the people living around them.
Homosexuals are often discriminated against because of their sexual orientation. Studies have actually proven that homosexuality is biologically and scientifically proven to exist in ones brain at birth, rather than it being inherited at a later age. “These could be genetic or hormonal factors that predetermine your sexual orientation.” A study taking place in the Korlinska Institute in Stockholm found that gay men have similar brains to that of straight women, and gay women have brains similar to that of straight men (In men the right sides on the brain are bigger than left). The amygdala, which is in control of emotions, provided further proof to a hormonal switch in homosexuals because in gay men and women it was located in a different region in the brain. Furthermore, in a gay brain the anterior commissure happens to be bigger than in a heterosexual male. So to conclude the studies it is fair to say that the hormonal switch which cause the gay male’s brain to resemble the straight females brain and the gay women’s brain to resemble the brain of the straight man, is responsible for gay men having a sexual preference similar to that of a straight woman, and vice versa for a lesbian woman. These findings have all been published in the “Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences” which has won Nobel Prizes for certain sections and so I think it is unreasonable to be skeptical of something with so much prestige. Even with this proof homosexuals are still judged, discriminated against, and hated. This type of discrimination is called minority discrimination since homosexuals have less than half the numbers that heterosexuals have. Because significant research suggests that people are born gay I find it senseless to discriminate against gays with the argument that gay exposure will lead to more people turning gay. For that reason I think denying these people their rights and freedoms is simply cruel and unjust.
It is certain that gays and lesbians cannot have children of their own together. Many want to adopt because of that. However, it is nearly impossible for LGBT people to adopt here in the United States. There are virtually no states that allow gay adults to adopt children freely without the government making it impossible for the adoption to actually take place. Common arguments against it say that children need both a man and woman in the household to grow up “normal” or “the right way”. In my opinion is it not right to say something like that because over 50% of marriages end in a divorce resulting in a child often being left with only one mother or one father. Should that give the government have the right to take away those parents’ rights as well since the “traditional family” has both a man and woman? Besides that there are also families that, due to unfortunate events, lose a parent in the household to death. Another common argument is that gay couples will raise gay kids. I think if people were educated and understood that a child is born gay, they would see how invalid and ignorant that argument sounds. With an estimated 143-210 million orphans worldwide, denying a home or family to a child in need is abhorrent behavior to me. A study took place in Russia with 15,000 orphans. Of these children 10-15% committed suicide before the age of eighteen, 5,000 of them ended up unemployed, 6,000 ended up homeless, and 3,000 ended up in prison. I truly believe these numbers would have been drastically different if even a single parental figure was around regardless of height, age, race, sexual orientation, or religious beliefs. I think even if one cannot fathom the good in allowing gay couples to adopt for the benefit of gays, they should at least allow the adoptions for the sake of the children.
With the hopes of protecting the institution of marriage the government is unfairly denying people freedoms to LGBT people. Opinionatedly speaking, I think that the sanctity of marriage was weakened when sex lost its sacredness, when marriages took place without love, and when divorce rates exceeded 50%. I believe that love should be the main component in a marriage and if marriage was centered on love instead of things like money, it would work out better. We have come a long way as people and most definitely altered our own beliefs and our own “traditional” values to fit our lives better. Divorce has become legal, blacks can marry whites, and women are no longer the submissive properties of men. I think and I hope that there will come a time when this controversial issue of allowing or disallowing gay marriage will become nothing but a story of the distant past.
[ 1 ]. http://www.balancedpolitics.org/same_sex_marriages.htm [ 2 ]. Ibid
[ 3 ]. http://www.nolo.com/legal-encyclopedia/same-sex-couples-federal-marriage-benefits-30326.html [ 4 ]. Ibid
[ 5 ]. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Love_marriage
[ 6 ]. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7456588.stm
[ 7 ]. Ibid
[ 8 ]. LeVay, Simon. Gay, Straight, and the Reason Why: The Science of Sexual Orientation. Oxford: Oxford UP, 2011. Print. [ 9 ]. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/health/7456588.stm
[ 10 ]. http://skywardjourney.wordpress.com/orphan-statistics/ [ 11 ]. Ibid