Friendship
Hey guys,
So I have this friend who I’ve known since 10th grade. We met at summer camp and didn’t really become friends until the end of our junior year of high school. We texted all the time and she became my best friend—the only person I’ve ever felt comfortable with talking to about anything and everything.
Fast forward to freshman year of college and she’s dating this asshole from camp (who goes to school near her) and she got hurt. I was a good friend and tried consoling her (sent her a gift from Boston and just was overall there for her). I fell for her.
And boy did I fall hard. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I really want to tell her but the timing wasn’t right. She went through this “I hate all men” phase. I wanted her to recover and get over this other guy before I said anything.
I go to school in Boston and she went to school in NJ (now she’s at Ohio State) so we don’t see each other that often. Thus, by the time that I built up the courage to tell her and she began to get over that guy, she’d already met another guy who she insisted was “just a friend” but I could tell she liked him off they way she described him. I panicked and didn’t tell her how I felt. My reasoning was that I wanted her to be happy. (I regret this from my freshman year more than anything.)
Fast forward to now. (Junior year starts in the fall) She is basically dating this guy and it’s a long distance relationship during the school year with them living near each other over the summer. I’m still head over heels for this girl and we are still great friends. She told me I’m like a brother to her and that she loves me. I couldn’t say it back because I know that I love her but in a different way.
I know I’ve been “friend-zoned”* and that I basically have zero chances of dating her but I cant be 100% sure without telling her. My main dilemma is that if I tell her its going to destroy our friendship and she’s still the one person who I can
So I have this friend who I’ve known since 10th grade. We met at summer camp and didn’t really become friends until the end of our junior year of high school. We texted all the time and she became my best friend—the only person I’ve ever felt comfortable with talking to about anything and everything.
Fast forward to freshman year of college and she’s dating this asshole from camp (who goes to school near her) and she got hurt. I was a good friend and tried consoling her (sent her a gift from Boston and just was overall there for her). I fell for her.
And boy did I fall hard. I’ve never felt this way about anyone before and I really want to tell her but the timing wasn’t right. She went through this “I hate all men” phase. I wanted her to recover and get over this other guy before I said anything.
I go to school in Boston and she went to school in NJ (now she’s at Ohio State) so we don’t see each other that often. Thus, by the time that I built up the courage to tell her and she began to get over that guy, she’d already met another guy who she insisted was “just a friend” but I could tell she liked him off they way she described him. I panicked and didn’t tell her how I felt. My reasoning was that I wanted her to be happy. (I regret this from my freshman year more than anything.)
Fast forward to now. (Junior year starts in the fall) She is basically dating this guy and it’s a long distance relationship during the school year with them living near each other over the summer. I’m still head over heels for this girl and we are still great friends. She told me I’m like a brother to her and that she loves me. I couldn’t say it back because I know that I love her but in a different way.
I know I’ve been “friend-zoned”* and that I basically have zero chances of dating her but I cant be 100% sure without telling her. My main dilemma is that if I tell her its going to destroy our friendship and she’s still the one person who I can