Fear of Abandonment
Growing up as a child can have its ups and downs. We all had good days and bad days. Everyone may have experienced to a certain degree some kind of abandonment during childhood. The feeling of abandonment can have many effects on a person, Depending on the severity of the incidents that the child goes through.
Irene’s parents left her when she was six years old because of financial issues. It was very traumatic to her because she did not understand most of it, she only knew that mommy and daddy were leaving her behind. She moved from foster home to foster home, never really able to find a true “home”. At such a young age Irene went though losing many people that seemed important to her. She felt as if they were all just abandoning her. This feeling and living in constant fear of people abandoning her stuck with her for a long time into her life. She always anticipates that someone would decide its time to leave and push her to the side and move on with their lives. The fear of abandonment is caused by childhood incidents that relate to the feeling of abandonment or loss.
No child would want to be alone. We all wanted to play with another person at recess or needed one last bed time story before going to bed. The feeling of constant solitude just does not work for a child. They need to be social and interact with one another. She would have a “family” for a while but then she would needed to be moved to another home. This added to her already sad heart because of being abandoned. She again feels as if her family is abandoning her. One after another they leave from her life. So this causes her to live in fear of more people coming in and then simply going out of her life.
We all have friends in school whether many or few, they are our peers. They laugh with us, play with us; share our good and bad times. If she could not rely on her family to be there for her then she would try to find good friends. Irene had some friends when she went to school, but
Irene’s parents left her when she was six years old because of financial issues. It was very traumatic to her because she did not understand most of it, she only knew that mommy and daddy were leaving her behind. She moved from foster home to foster home, never really able to find a true “home”. At such a young age Irene went though losing many people that seemed important to her. She felt as if they were all just abandoning her. This feeling and living in constant fear of people abandoning her stuck with her for a long time into her life. She always anticipates that someone would decide its time to leave and push her to the side and move on with their lives. The fear of abandonment is caused by childhood incidents that relate to the feeling of abandonment or loss.
No child would want to be alone. We all wanted to play with another person at recess or needed one last bed time story before going to bed. The feeling of constant solitude just does not work for a child. They need to be social and interact with one another. She would have a “family” for a while but then she would needed to be moved to another home. This added to her already sad heart because of being abandoned. She again feels as if her family is abandoning her. One after another they leave from her life. So this causes her to live in fear of more people coming in and then simply going out of her life.
We all have friends in school whether many or few, they are our peers. They laugh with us, play with us; share our good and bad times. If she could not rely on her family to be there for her then she would try to find good friends. Irene had some friends when she went to school, but