My father Javier Cortes like many other fathers is not perfect. Our relationship with each other has had its many ups and downs ever since I was a little girl. One thing that made our relationship even more complicated was the fact that my parents were dating and not married with a child and all they seemed to do was argue.
In my point of view their relationship was not right to begin with. Their different personalities just didn’t mesh well together. The saying that opposites attract was not true in this case it just made it more of a problem to put a child into the equation. I’m not sure if either of them were ready to have a child but I guess they thought they were at the time. I’m fortunate that they decided to have me because they are the best parents I could ever ask for. I remember when my mom would be working and my Tia Angie would be watching me and he would pick me up. He would take me to the liquor store on the corner of our street. He bought me whatever I wanted and fresh tamales which were my favorite. It didn’t make up for all the times he wasn’t there for me but at the end my day was complete. Even now those little visits were and still remain the best memories. Growing up with a father that has always seemed to be in and out of jail; left me with a lot of unwanted memories. He should have been the one person that kissed all my scrapes and bruises away from riding a bike for the first time. He should have been the one that put me to sleep with the sound of his voice reading bed time stories and he should have been the one that I could have been proud of, looked up to and showed off to all my friends. He wasn’t the ideal father but the times I did spend with him were the best because he always tried his hardest to make me happy. It hurt me so much not having my father there for me as a child; my father was and still is everything to me. He could do no wrong because I love him unconditionally. In my eyes he is a super-hero shielding me from all the harm in this big world.
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