Explain Your Response: Breaking Away From My Family

Explain your response: I consider myself an adult in some ways because I am breaking away from my family; I live on my own. As a young adult, I have developed post-formal thinking; according to Perry, I have moved from the dualistic thought to relativistic thought. For example, I am an adult when arguing with my mother, and I just let her say anything she has to say instead of being egocentric. I understand arguing will not take us anywhere. I am in this predicament with my mother, and I no longer think about what is the right or wrong answer. I am more understanding of her way of thinking or where she comes from thus balancing my emotions with reasoning like an adult. In some ways, I do not consider myself an adult because I have not fully taken the responsibilities of an adult. I still depend on my parents for financial support and advice so not quite yet fitting into the adult role.
As discussed by Erikson’s psychosocial development stages: identity, intimacy, and generativity, first explore and define your identity. But Freud suggests a healthy adult is one that can love and work. Erikson agrees, but to be able to develop relationships and to love and work you must continue to develop an identity because work is part of who you are. In the meantime, attend college or develop a skill that can lead to a good career. Once financial security is established, you will be better prepared for the intimacy stage in which you engage in a romantic relationship. After establishing a relationship, you should be able to love, get married, have kids and work. Finally, at the generativity stage when you enter adulthood you may develop a concern about the commitment to the next generation. A way to contribute to the community may consist of you mentoring other young adults to establish a career to earn a living thus contributing to the next