Essays
Premarital Counseling
Darion Tun email: chsaccountant@yahoo.com
Herbert Fletcher University
Course: S2 2011-2012 MCAL 612 IB Pastoral Care and Counseling
Course Facilitator: Dr. Simon Bwambale
Introduction: Chapter 1: I’ve chosen this topic because of the vast growing youths of our society and church whose minds have been educated at an earlier stage than those ten years ago. Many youths of the church have absorbed the norms of the secular dating style and must be educated of the benefits of bible based dating and courtship, not disciplined. Although the words “courtship” and “dating” are not found in the Bible, we are given some principles that Christians are to go by during the time before marriage. There is an increasing in trends that threaten marriage, bible based dating and courtship. In order to have a successful marriage we must know how to deal with difficult situations. These difficult situations may involve: equality/ submission concerns, finances, family of origin issues, family planning, Parenting, in-laws, domestic violence, sexuality problems, infidelity, gender issues, health concerns, pornography, house chores, stress, cultural differences, and even sleeping together. Husbands and wives need to identify if they are savers or spenders and should develop a financial plan to discuss their finances on a regular basis. If there are no understanding and flexibility with their finances there can be a budget war. Similar to money the issues of house chores affect marriage more than couples dating, since, a lot more responsibility is demanded by both spouses. House chores are to be shared equally, but some spouses in contemporary marriages challenges the relationships by not cooperating or pulling their weight in their duties. If a vegetarian and a meat eater decides to date or even marry, their relationship is bound to fail since mixed diet issues can severely challenge a relationship. Sexual issues can tear a marriage and couples
Darion Tun email: chsaccountant@yahoo.com
Herbert Fletcher University
Course: S2 2011-2012 MCAL 612 IB Pastoral Care and Counseling
Course Facilitator: Dr. Simon Bwambale
Introduction: Chapter 1: I’ve chosen this topic because of the vast growing youths of our society and church whose minds have been educated at an earlier stage than those ten years ago. Many youths of the church have absorbed the norms of the secular dating style and must be educated of the benefits of bible based dating and courtship, not disciplined. Although the words “courtship” and “dating” are not found in the Bible, we are given some principles that Christians are to go by during the time before marriage. There is an increasing in trends that threaten marriage, bible based dating and courtship. In order to have a successful marriage we must know how to deal with difficult situations. These difficult situations may involve: equality/ submission concerns, finances, family of origin issues, family planning, Parenting, in-laws, domestic violence, sexuality problems, infidelity, gender issues, health concerns, pornography, house chores, stress, cultural differences, and even sleeping together. Husbands and wives need to identify if they are savers or spenders and should develop a financial plan to discuss their finances on a regular basis. If there are no understanding and flexibility with their finances there can be a budget war. Similar to money the issues of house chores affect marriage more than couples dating, since, a lot more responsibility is demanded by both spouses. House chores are to be shared equally, but some spouses in contemporary marriages challenges the relationships by not cooperating or pulling their weight in their duties. If a vegetarian and a meat eater decides to date or even marry, their relationship is bound to fail since mixed diet issues can severely challenge a relationship. Sexual issues can tear a marriage and couples
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