ἔρως, φιλíα, ἀγάπη: A Journey through Love
A beautiful odyssey across the three stages of love begins with the recognition of eros. The first level of love is named after Eros, the Greek god of love, or known more commonly as Cupid, the Roman god of desire. While it may sound lovely at first, eros quickly finds itself boring and the “lovers” find themselves restless. It is because the love is temporary, manipulative, exploitative, and most importantly, inadequate. The next level of love on the path to joy is philia. Philia is the first time two people actually invest emotions, trust, and time. Following philia is agape, the greatest of all the loves, because it is unconditional and permanent. Agape, unlike eros, does not need to be sexual. It is the last destination for joy.
ɛrɒs should be experienced by everyone in my opinion. It should be that way because once you feel eros at its core, an inadequate familiarity, you want something more, and the same goes for the later stage of philia. Eros is temporary and sex should not be treated as recreational because “it is one of the most powerful of all human emotions, and if used wisely, can be a great blessing but if you play games with it, you will lose.” The famous song by Meatloaf called Two Out of Three Ain’t Bad’s lyrics play into mind, “I want you, I need you, but I ain’t ever going to love you.” τοῦτο γάρ ἐστιν θέλημα τοῦ θεοῦ, ὁ ἁγιασμὸς ὑμῶν, ἀπέχεσθαι ὑμᾶς ἀπὸ τῆς πορνείας, 1 Thessalonians 4:1-3. It is God’s will for us to be holy and eros is not the path he wants us to walk on.
Eros is not a mature love. It is the basis for many relationships among teenagers, even relationships I used to have with my girlfriends, and I will be honest with that. I have matured and developed thankfully and I am no longer an eros person in my mind. You cannot build a mature life without a foundation and eros is not a foundation.
An eros person should read Ephesians 5: 1-20 at least once in their lifetime, but that...
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