Effectively Stating Emotions
Stating Emotions Effectively
Illogical Fallacies
Irrational fallacies lead to illogical conclusions and result in debilitative motions, and since we aren’t usually aware of these thoughts, they are very powerful.
1. The Fallacy of Perfection – people who accept this fallacy believe that a worthwhile communicator should be able to handle every situation with complete confidence and skill; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to the disapproval of others and it can also diminish self- esteem.
2. The Fallacy of Approval – people who accept this fallacy seek approval from others, even if they have to sacrifice their own principles and happiness; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to feelings of nervousness and embarrassment and cause one to be apologetic when others are at fault.
3. The Fallacy of Shoulds – people who accept this fallacy are unable to distinguish between what is and what should be; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to unnecessary unhappiness.
4. The Fallacy of Overgeneralization – people who accept this fallacy base their beliefs on limited evidence and over-exaggeration; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to discouragement or anger.
5. The Fallacy of Causation – people who accept this fallacy have the irrational belief that emotions are caused by others, rather than by one’s own self; subscribing to this fallacy causes people to be overly cautious when communicating because of the fear that they will cause pain or inconvenience for others.
6. The Fallacy of Helplessness – people who accept this fallacy believe that forces beyond their control determine their satisfaction in life; subscribing to this fallacy causes people to perceive themselves as victims.
7. The Fallacy of Catastrophic Expectations – people who accept this fallacy operate on the assumption that if something bad can happen, it will; subscribing to this fallacy leads to self-fulfilling catastrophe(s).
Feeling Statement Identify ineffective, unclear elements/rewrite
Illogical Fallacies
Irrational fallacies lead to illogical conclusions and result in debilitative motions, and since we aren’t usually aware of these thoughts, they are very powerful.
1. The Fallacy of Perfection – people who accept this fallacy believe that a worthwhile communicator should be able to handle every situation with complete confidence and skill; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to the disapproval of others and it can also diminish self- esteem.
2. The Fallacy of Approval – people who accept this fallacy seek approval from others, even if they have to sacrifice their own principles and happiness; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to feelings of nervousness and embarrassment and cause one to be apologetic when others are at fault.
3. The Fallacy of Shoulds – people who accept this fallacy are unable to distinguish between what is and what should be; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to unnecessary unhappiness.
4. The Fallacy of Overgeneralization – people who accept this fallacy base their beliefs on limited evidence and over-exaggeration; subscribing to this fallacy can lead to discouragement or anger.
5. The Fallacy of Causation – people who accept this fallacy have the irrational belief that emotions are caused by others, rather than by one’s own self; subscribing to this fallacy causes people to be overly cautious when communicating because of the fear that they will cause pain or inconvenience for others.
6. The Fallacy of Helplessness – people who accept this fallacy believe that forces beyond their control determine their satisfaction in life; subscribing to this fallacy causes people to perceive themselves as victims.
7. The Fallacy of Catastrophic Expectations – people who accept this fallacy operate on the assumption that if something bad can happen, it will; subscribing to this fallacy leads to self-fulfilling catastrophe(s).
Feeling Statement Identify ineffective, unclear elements/rewrite