Effective Interpersonal Communications
Effective Interpersonal Communications Christopher Travers
COM 200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Cassandra Daniel
September 30, 2013
Dear Lensie and Christopher, I was thrilled to no end to hear of your engagement. You must be very excited to know that you are going to spend the rest of your lives together with your best friend. In your asking for advice you seek on successful relationships, I would like to offer of different aspects of interpersonal communication, from a c lass I am taking, to help you understand both yourself, and each other. Here are a few of the learning outcomes I feel will be useful and should, if applied, help you with any problems you may have. You two are always in my prayers. Uncle Chris.
Identify the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions. There can be bumps in the road when it comes to some relationships. Not only do we need to hear our partner’s voice, is important that we listen to what they are saying. Miscommunication can occur and be a key problem. “Three common communication problems in relationships stem from the following behaviors of one or both parties: (1) silence or refusing to communicate; (2) placating, which means to soothe or calm someone by being nice or by giving in to demands; and (3) playing games. (Sole, K.(2011)9.1, pp216). It can be easy to assume that our partner is going to know how we are going to react within a given situation. Arguments and misunderstandings do not need to happen and by being aware that there is a problem can help you identify how to handle the situation. By remaining silent, one person is showing that they are either angry or hurt but over a prolonged period of time this can create confusion and tension, making matters worse. “People most commonly resort to
COM 200: Interpersonal Communication
Instructor: Cassandra Daniel
September 30, 2013
Dear Lensie and Christopher, I was thrilled to no end to hear of your engagement. You must be very excited to know that you are going to spend the rest of your lives together with your best friend. In your asking for advice you seek on successful relationships, I would like to offer of different aspects of interpersonal communication, from a c lass I am taking, to help you understand both yourself, and each other. Here are a few of the learning outcomes I feel will be useful and should, if applied, help you with any problems you may have. You two are always in my prayers. Uncle Chris.
Identify the barriers to effective interpersonal interactions. There can be bumps in the road when it comes to some relationships. Not only do we need to hear our partner’s voice, is important that we listen to what they are saying. Miscommunication can occur and be a key problem. “Three common communication problems in relationships stem from the following behaviors of one or both parties: (1) silence or refusing to communicate; (2) placating, which means to soothe or calm someone by being nice or by giving in to demands; and (3) playing games. (Sole, K.(2011)9.1, pp216). It can be easy to assume that our partner is going to know how we are going to react within a given situation. Arguments and misunderstandings do not need to happen and by being aware that there is a problem can help you identify how to handle the situation. By remaining silent, one person is showing that they are either angry or hurt but over a prolonged period of time this can create confusion and tension, making matters worse. “People most commonly resort to
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