Domestic Violence: Why Does Women Stay
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Domestic Violence: Why Does She Stay?
Holly Brim
University of Phoenix
COM/220
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“Why did you stay?” she was asked. Liz Faith, a former victim of domestic violence, now detective at the Bellevue Detective Family Violence Unit responded, “See I love that question because for me, the only answer to that question is, ‘Why are you asking me that question?’. To me it’s like, who cares why I stayed. Why do people even ask that question? Why aren’t people saying, ‘Why did he do that?’ To me it doesn’t matter. Why do women stay? Well, they stay for a number of reasons. They are in love, and I was in love. You know, they are dependent and the other person is dependent on …show more content…
This, more times than not, is quite the opposite. The most dangerous time for a battered woman, is once she has actually left the abusive person. This is when the abuser tends to “up” the violence because they feel like they are losing control of her and the situation. Abusers usually stalk their partners after they leave, as well. Abusers are more likely to kill their victims after they leave, while trying to leave, or when the victim tries to exert some type of independence. This type of violence in the world of domestic violence workers and advocates is called “separation violence” and is considered the most dangerous time of all. (The Oakland County Coordinating …show more content…
Because of the amount of control that is used in these types of relationships, the victim may not even have access to money the entire time they are together. Many abusers do not allow their victims to possess money, work jobs outside the home, obtain drivers licenses’ or he himself may not work or provide for the family, leaving her without the financial means to survive on her own. If she does work, the abuser may insist that she account for every penny or hand her entire check over to him. He may also threaten to hire an attorney and take the children away if she leaves. Fear of losing her
Domestic Violence: Why Does She Stay?
Holly Brim
University of Phoenix
COM/220
2
“Why did you stay?” she was asked. Liz Faith, a former victim of domestic violence, now detective at the Bellevue Detective Family Violence Unit responded, “See I love that question because for me, the only answer to that question is, ‘Why are you asking me that question?’. To me it’s like, who cares why I stayed. Why do people even ask that question? Why aren’t people saying, ‘Why did he do that?’ To me it doesn’t matter. Why do women stay? Well, they stay for a number of reasons. They are in love, and I was in love. You know, they are dependent and the other person is dependent on …show more content…
This, more times than not, is quite the opposite. The most dangerous time for a battered woman, is once she has actually left the abusive person. This is when the abuser tends to “up” the violence because they feel like they are losing control of her and the situation. Abusers usually stalk their partners after they leave, as well. Abusers are more likely to kill their victims after they leave, while trying to leave, or when the victim tries to exert some type of independence. This type of violence in the world of domestic violence workers and advocates is called “separation violence” and is considered the most dangerous time of all. (The Oakland County Coordinating …show more content…
Because of the amount of control that is used in these types of relationships, the victim may not even have access to money the entire time they are together. Many abusers do not allow their victims to possess money, work jobs outside the home, obtain drivers licenses’ or he himself may not work or provide for the family, leaving her without the financial means to survive on her own. If she does work, the abuser may insist that she account for every penny or hand her entire check over to him. He may also threaten to hire an attorney and take the children away if she leaves. Fear of losing her