The Cycle of Abuse
Eng135 Advance Composition
December 3, 2010
Domestic Violence; The cycle of physical abuse
In many abusive relationships, violence is not a onetime incident. The abuse usually happens again and again. While every relationship is different, many abusive relationships follow a repeating pattern called the Cycle of Abuse.
Abuse is not limited to nationality, age, income bracket, gender, or location; in fact, it is a growing problem that is often times unknown to society due to a victim’s fear of the consequences that he or she may face if the incidents are spoken about. Abuse can happen in many forms; however the three main focuses in this essay will be on physical, financial, and verbal abuse. The laws with domestic violence though enforced are not as strong as one would hope due to the fine print that will also be reviewed in the research included in this report. Domestic Violence
According to the Domestic Violence Hotline, “a woman in the United States is beaten every 15 seconds, 22 to 35 percent of emergency room visits from women are because of ongoing partner abuse, 1 in 4 pregnant women have a history of partner violence, and 63 percent of young men between the ages of 11 and 20 are in jail for murdering their mothers abuser” (Domestic Violence Hotline, 2010). Domestic violence is the leading cause of injuries to women within the ages of 16-46. These facts show that society should clearly be giving this issue a serious look and reaching out to more people to greater their awareness to this problem. There are several warning signs that parents and friend and family can pick up on in order to help someone they care about in this situation. Some of the early warning signs of abuse that can help people identify loved ones in an abusive relationship are: if their partner behaves in a way that is extremely jealous or possessive, such as checking in on them too often. Hearing verbal abuse, such as name-calling and demeaning comments. Also, another sign is if your loved one gives up things that were important to them, such as time with friends and family, activities, or other interests. The last signs are them having unexplained injuries and seeing the person abuse other people or animals (Break the cycle, 2008). Domestic Violence; The cycle of physical abuse
The cycle of domestic violence is continual in most cases and does not necessarily begin with physical abuse but may begin with verbal abuse. This is a warning to leave the relationship and the residence. There are many facilities that can help a victim going through abuse such as the Woman’s Center, the police, and local shelters that offer a safe haven for those who call. The term 'domestic abuse' doesn't only include physical violence - it describes any abusive behavior repeatedly used by one person to control and/or dominate another person with whom they have or have had an intimate relationship. It also includes the exertion of control and/ or domination of one family member over another (Welsh Women's Aid, 2006). The cycle of violence in domestic abuse
In many abusive relationships, violence is not a onetime incident. The abuse usually happens over and over again. While every relationship is different, almost all abusive relationships follow a repeating pattern called the Cycle of Abuse. The Cycle of Abuse has three phases: honeymoon, tension building, and explosion phase. Each phase can be as short as a few seconds, or as long as several years. Over time, however, the honeymoon phase usually gets smaller and shorter and the explosions become more violent and dangerous. Relationships often start in the honeymoon phase. This can be very confusing and scary when the explosion phase happens for the first time. Honeymoon
During this stage, the abuser will try and make you forgive and forget anything that just happened in the Explosion phase. They might do this by:...
Bibliography: Welsh Women 's Aid. (2006). Retrieved December 3, 2010, from Facts of Domestic Violence: http://www.welshwomensaid.org/whatis/facts.html
The authors of this website used important information found in studies done by researchers in the United Kingdom. Welsh Women’s Aid define domestic abuse as "the actual or threatened physical, emotional, psychological, sexual or financial abuse of a woman by a partner, family member or someone with whom there is, or has been, a close relationship. This abuse also relates to the perpetrator allowing or causing a child to witness, or be at risk of witnessing, domestic abuse." Statistics show that 97% of reported incidences of domestic abuse are perpetrated by men against women. However, Welsh Women 's Aid recognizes that domestic abuse can occur within same sex relationships and that, in a very small number of cases, women are the perpetrators of abuse.
Break the cycle. (2008, July ). Retrieved December 2, 2010, from http://www.thesafespace.org/pdf/handout-what-parents-need-to-know-about-teen-dv.pdf
Breaking the cycle focuses on domestic abuse in reference to teenagers. Watching your teen experience abuse can be both frustrating and frightening. But parents are critical in helping their teens develop healthy relationships, and can provide life-saving support if their teen is experiencing abuse. Remember, dating violence occurs in both same-sex and opposite-sex couples and that girl can abuse boys, just as boys can abuse girls.
How Can I Get Out of My Abusive Relationship? . (2009). Retrieved December 3, 2010, from thesafespace.org: http://www.thesafespace.org/stay-safe/need-help/how-can-i-get-out-of-my-abusive-relationship/
Breaking the cycle focuses on domestic abuse in reference to teenagers but this article is helpful for adults as well. If you are in an abusive relationship, you’re probably feeling confusing emotions about what to do. You may fear what your partner will do if you leave, or how your friends and family will react when you tell them about the abuse. If you are financially or physically dependent on your partner, leaving may feel impossible. You might also think that the police and other adults won’t take you seriously if you report the abuse. These are all understandable reasons to feel nervous about leaving your partner, but staying in the abusive relationship isn’t your only option.
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