Divorce rates in the United States have increased dramatically in the past 25 years. Over 40 percent of the marriages among young Americans will end in divorce. There is a lot of stress on all the people involved. The man has to deal with, usually, not seeing his children, being alone, and the responsibility that is accompanied with much of the legal process. The wife has to go through, maybe, entering the work force for the first time. Children are often viewed as a back burner issue but more often than none they are the center piece of discussion. The children may begin feeling inadequate around their friends and even in personal esteem. Feeling like it is their fault they might get depressed or perhaps even rebellious. …show more content…
It is not uncommon for the divorced partner to experience hurt, resentment, and anger. To many people, divorce signifies failure in an extremely important relationship.
Lowwer self-esteem and feelings of worthlessness and reduction are also common and stress producing results. If children are involved, the stress can be even greater. Researchers now believe that the most important influence on the emotional health of children its the quality of their relationships within their family, however that family might be structured, according to Robert Every, a psychologist at the University of Virginia. For example, psychologists used to think that boys needed their father within the home until at least age of seven or eight. Now, they have discovered that the physical presence of a father in the family are warm and supporting adults. This shift occurred partly in recognition of the changing American family and the changing demographics of divorce. The focus on relationships also means that if divorced parents are angry and bitter, children will suffer and they will suffer more if they …show more content…
Whether children fare well may depend on their temperament, their past experience, their age, and the support they receive from their parents .5"(pp. 189-197) Such parental support is often lacking, because parents are so wrapped up in their own problems during a divorce that their ability to function as parents diminishes. "Although children may fare well in single-parent families, the chances increase that they will face problems. There are many stresses associated with divorce. These include the disruption of bedtimes and eating schedules, the effects of the parents emotional state, and the lessening of adult contact. Also, the level of income in the household usually decreases, and this may produce more stress.
Less income may require the parent to move, which in turn may cause the child to behave to change of schools or move to a poorer neighborhood with a higher rate of crime and delinquency."(pp. 170-174)
Divorce is happening every day to couples in the United States. The only problem, is that the couple thinks they are the only ones going through