The core conditions, as outlined by Rogers in the 1960’s, are now generally accepted as central to the creation of a successful client/counsellor relationship to enable personal change. Firstly, with regard to congruence, Rogers believed “personal growth is facilitated when the counselor ... is genuine and without "front" or facade, openly being the feelings and attitudes which at that moment are flowing in him” (Rogers, 1962). A counsellor with limited knowledge of themselves is open to client’s stories evoking feelings to which they were previously unaware leaving them unable to differentiate between their own feelings and those of their clients. This “incongruence will almost surely be picked up by the person I am trying to help, possibly making me seem unauthentic or false” (Sanders, 2011, p65).
Secondly, a counsellor unable to separate their own, from their clients, feelings cannot show empathy and also undermines their confidence of judgment. Cross and Papadopoulous argue that “Self-knowledge or personal insight enables you to avoid
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