Stephanie Ericsson author of “The Ways We Lie” was born in 1953 and was raised in San Francisco. The essay “The Way We Lie” was first published in the Utne Reader. Her husband Jim died in 1988 and due to that she kept a journal and later turned it in to a book called “Companion Through the Darkness, Inner Dialogues on Grief”. Her other works include ShameFaced (Hazelden Publications), that is used for the last 25 years in chemical dependency treatment centers. She was also the editor of two books by Stephen Zuckerman: New Clichés for the 21st Century and Doc, What's Up? Stephanie presently lives in Saint Paul, Minnesota.…
After reading Stephanie Ericsson’s article titled “ The ways we lie” , I chose to write about delusion. In Ericsson’s article she said that delusion is closely related to other forms of lying such as dismissal , omission , and amnesia. It is a form of protecting yourself from facts that you don’t want to face. Instead of taking a good look at yourself and being totally honest with yourself , you allow logic to go out the window and make up excuses for your actions. You may truly believe what you are telling yourself . That makes delusion a cunning way to excuse your behavior and your actions. On a grander scale, some people may delude unpleasant or overwhelming facts ( such as “The Revelation” (or second coming) because to truly adknowledge…
In "The Ways We Lie" by Stephanie Ericsson, Ericsson talks about how lies exist in aspects of our life every single day. She describes the different ways that humans lie and justifies why people doing so. These lies discussed in this article include the white lies, facade lies, lies of omission and lies that focus around stereotypes. White lie is a common way that people lie to others, because the lie would be better than the truth. Sometimes, the truth will cause more damage or dangerous than a simple harmless…
The author gives the opinion of several professionals and their views on the issue of lying. This opinion is that lying has serious consequences that are difficult to undo. One such consequence is destroying relationships for personal gain.…
The ways lies can impact or affect the lives of the people who tell them are explained in “The Ways We Lie” written by Stephanie Ericsson in 50 Essays. Ericsson talks about the types of lies and how it impacts the person who tells lies. For instance Ericsson Three Common Lies Ericsson uses are The White Lie, Deflecting, and Omission.…
Understanding interpersonal communication helps build relationships with understanding the stages, common goals, uncertainty, and conflicts in relationships.…
Deception is one of the most debatable issues in psychological research. Research has shown that individuals who participated in deceptive versus non-deceptive found the deceptive studies more enjoyable. These individuals also found a greater sense of educational gain and did not mind their privacy invaded or experiencing deception. This research suggests that although deception is unethical on a moral basis, it is not seen that way from the view of the…
Explains the process that people use to manage the relationship between concealing and revealing private information…
Reflecting on this article, I agree with its contents. As we get closer in a relationship, we dismiss the fact that we could be misunderstood by each other on certain situations or certain scenarios. “Getting close to someone appears to create the illusion of understanding more than actual understanding” (Health Day 2011). When this happens, we can become angry with the spouse because we expected them to understand what we meant or said. As couples, we want to believe that we are on the same page all the time because we are so close. Whether we are face to face, back to back, in another room, or on the phone with each other, misunderstanding can and will happen without further questioning from the other spouse. When something is said, it is the other spouse’s responsibility to make sure they are clear in what they are hearing. Without this tactic, there will be misinterpretations between the spouses. This creates unhealthy communication between the spouses.…
Today society consists of good, yet dishonest company. Deceit is more common than uncommon and research has shown that on a daily basis, lies are consistent in every individual’s life. According to a study done by U.S. News & World Report, for every 10 minutes of mundane conversation, one person will tell two to three lies. However, although lying is an evil action that is regarded by many as immoral or betrayal, research has found that a little lying can actually be good for you (Boser).…
Yes this has happen to me on several occasions, Sometimes my husband and I will bump heads because of a simple gesture or look on ones face. What I have done to correct this is to simply ask if whatever I’m trying to communicate is understood or if he has questions as to the subject at hand. After reading and doing some research on this week’s assignment I came across some interesting points. People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than with strangers. That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate, a phenomenon we term the 'closeness-communication bias, '" study co-author Boaz Keysar, a professor in psychology at the University of Chicago, said in a university news release © 2011 HealthDay. I have found that sometimes its just plan miscommunication between us an example of this is I would say to my husband, 'it 's getting hot in here, ' as a hint for her him to turn up the air conditioning a notch, I was surprised when he interpreted my statement as a coy, amorous advance instead this has happen in many other simple conversations. I amazed me after reading more on this the article “Close Relationships Sometimes Mask Poor Communication”. I do this al the time not only with my Husband but family and friends as well. Not to sat that my intentions were to mislead anyone, but this article rang close to home.…
The article “Masking Poor Communication” discussed how miscommunication is misunderstood and perceived as something. What someone is saying can easily be taken for something else. Everyone has their own perception. This can have a negative impact on the people who are close to you. In the article it stated that “people commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends than strangers. This closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate, a phenomenon we term the closeness- communication bias”( Keysar, 2011). Just because someone is close to you doesn‘t mean they know what you mean every time you say something. The moral of this article for me was, just because you know a person doesn’t mean they can read your mind. People change everyday, so how can you think you know what’s on a person’s mind?…
"It is a puzzling thing. The truth knocks on the door and you say, Go away, I 'm looking for the truth, ' and so it goes away. Puzzling." The irony of Robert Pirsig touches on the strange encounter of self-deception. I know the truth and you do not; I intentionally hide the truth from youthis is the lie. But with this understanding of deception, how then, is self-deception possible? Does one know the truth about something and then, simultaneously, hide the truth from one 's self? How could this be: what makes it possible for a single person to be both deceived and deceiver? Nietzsche makes self-deception a reality through the error of truth.…
Lying is “a false statement or action made with the intent to deceive.” (Ericsson1) Lying is a bad thing for anyone to do for various reasons. Three writers that agree are Stephanie Ericsson author of “The ways we Lie”, Richard Gunderman author of “is lying bad for us?”, and Angela Haupts author of “How lying affects your health”. These three writers give great insight on how these lies can affect ones mental health, as well as their psychological health and also how you can improve from those negative symptoms from lying.…
In “The Ways We Lie” by Stephanie Ericsson, she talks about the many different types of lies. She says that we all lie, and we all lie in most of the ways she mentions. In my opinion, I agree with most of what she says. It is true that we all lie in some way, but we might not all lie in the same way. Some people like to use the “lie of omission” while others might to tend towards the “white lie.” While these lies, in my opinion, tend to be the most common, some of her other example of lying are also used widely. “Ignoring the plain facts” is used all over the news and media, and her example of the Church in the 1960s is one of the most famous. This is also an example of irony, because the Church itself was the one “ignoring the plain…