Deborah Tannens 'Sex, Lies, And Conversation'
Objective Comparative Analysis: “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” and “In My Tribe”
In “Sex, Lies, and Conversation,” author Deborah Tannen claims that understanding cultural differences can apply to gender differences in communication. Thus, she also claims that men and women communicate in different ways and because of that wreaks havoc in marriages; however, in the essay “In My Tribe,” author Ethan Watters claims that the people of his generation are getting married later in life and that it is becoming more popular and due that the divorce rates are declining and making marriage more enjoyable.
The text suggests in the essay “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” that the reader understands what an orgy is in the quote “marriage is an orgy of closeness” …show more content…
In Tannens essay she qualifies that in Catherine Kohler Ressmans book, Divorce Talk, that most of the women she interviewed and only a few men actually said that lack of communication was the reason for their divorces. . In this piece of data, the argument qualifies “most” women and a “few” men; therefore, it does not say that every failed marriage is due to lack of communication. Likewise in Tannens own research the argument qualifies that women most often focused on communication being the problem in their relationships, that means that some other women focused on other reasons besides communication. The text states “ in my own research, complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on tangible inequities such as having given up the chance for a career to accompany a husband to his, or doing far more than their share of daily life-support work like cleaning, cooking, social arrangements, and errands. Instead, they focused on communication” (313). On the other hand, in Watters essay the argument qualifies that “as many ex-girlfriends will ruefully tell you, loyalty to the tribe can wreak havoc on romantic relationships” (406). The qualifier in that example is “many of” and it qualifies that most of the ex-girlfriends, but not all, blame the failed relationship on the tribe. Watters argument also qualifies “an article in Time magazine asked whether “picky” women were “denying
In “Sex, Lies, and Conversation,” author Deborah Tannen claims that understanding cultural differences can apply to gender differences in communication. Thus, she also claims that men and women communicate in different ways and because of that wreaks havoc in marriages; however, in the essay “In My Tribe,” author Ethan Watters claims that the people of his generation are getting married later in life and that it is becoming more popular and due that the divorce rates are declining and making marriage more enjoyable.
The text suggests in the essay “Sex, Lies, and Conversation” that the reader understands what an orgy is in the quote “marriage is an orgy of closeness” …show more content…
In Tannens essay she qualifies that in Catherine Kohler Ressmans book, Divorce Talk, that most of the women she interviewed and only a few men actually said that lack of communication was the reason for their divorces. . In this piece of data, the argument qualifies “most” women and a “few” men; therefore, it does not say that every failed marriage is due to lack of communication. Likewise in Tannens own research the argument qualifies that women most often focused on communication being the problem in their relationships, that means that some other women focused on other reasons besides communication. The text states “ in my own research, complaints from women about their husbands most often focused not on tangible inequities such as having given up the chance for a career to accompany a husband to his, or doing far more than their share of daily life-support work like cleaning, cooking, social arrangements, and errands. Instead, they focused on communication” (313). On the other hand, in Watters essay the argument qualifies that “as many ex-girlfriends will ruefully tell you, loyalty to the tribe can wreak havoc on romantic relationships” (406). The qualifier in that example is “many of” and it qualifies that most of the ex-girlfriends, but not all, blame the failed relationship on the tribe. Watters argument also qualifies “an article in Time magazine asked whether “picky” women were “denying