In Deborah Tannen’s essay “I’ll Explain It to You: Lecturing and Listening”, she asserts the belief that even though men and women speak the same structural language, their motivations for speech and conversational patterns are very different. In the earlier years of development, Tannen observes that girls use speech to find confirmation and establish intimacy, whereas boys use speech to assert their independence and attain social status. After transitioning to adulthood, women find themselves bored and constantly nodding as men lecture them. Tannen provides specific observations of gender communication that portrays women as passive reactors in a conversation and men as the dominant aggressors. For example, Tannen writes that men tend to lead the conversation while women tend to offer their opinions of agreement or disagreement. She also states that expertise does not guarantee a women center stage in a discussion as it would a man. In response to Tannen ideas, I find that there are no parallels to my experiences and her observations. Frequently I am the one to initiate and hold a conversation, as well as provide my opinion even when I am uncertain about its validity. I notice myself making the group, which includes men, laugh and therefore I establish myself in the conversation. In no way do Tannen’s observations of language according to gender reflect upon my speech tendencies. In order to observe the conversational patterns of men and women, they must first be introduced to one another. In Tannen’s observations, men tend to first introduce themselves and then continue by elaborating on themselves. When he is satisfied with his speech, he will then stop to inquire what the woman has to offer to the conversation. Drawing from personal experience, I find that I am the one who introduces myself and gets the conversation started. For instance, in the college social scene, people are thrust together and I find that I do not know many people. I once went up to
In reading Deborah Tannen’s essay “You Just Don’t Understand: Women and Men in Conversation,” I was found to believe that the main idea of this essay was the language of everyday conversation. The subject of Deborah Tannen’s essay would be in my opinion the difference in which males and females use communication skills. When it comes to men, they seem to talk more if they were sitting next to a female. Also a boys way of communicating with other boys, was not by talking, but by….
In “How Male and Female Students Use Language Differently” by Deborah Tannen illustrates the day to day gender differences in institutions. Tannen is an author and professor that researched the difference in genders in school. Tannen successfully enlightens her colleagues about men and women differences in education institutions by, establishing her credibility through research, observations and using her logic.
Tannen did research and wrote a book comparing men and women in education institutions….
distinguish men and women. Rather anything from clothing or hairstyles to make-up or accessories can indicate specific messages about an individual. According to Deborah Tannen, women are more frequently considered marked beings in our society while men have fewer clothing or style options and are therefore free to remain unmarked. Although Tannen argues that it is possible for men to remain purely "unmarked" her assertions do not hold up well in a changing world. Because the term "marked" is a social….
Deborah Tannen in her essay "Why Can't He Hear What I'm Saying?" relates to a problem that every person regardless of age, race or sex, will have to face many times in his or her lifetime. It explains the author’s theory that both men and women are listening to one another, but because they have been taught different ways of communicating, different values and to have different purposes when speaking, they feel as if they are not communicating.
Deborah Tannen notes that men are….
The Argument Culture
In Deborah Tannen’s article “The Argument Culture,” she states that argument and debate “urge us to approach the world, and the people in it, in an adversarial frame of mine.” She calls this new norm of society “The argument culture”. The argument culture “rests on the assumption that opposition is the best way to get anything done”. Tannen uses the metaphor of an arguing spouse to convey the idea that society needs act more like a married couple to find a more constructive….
Section 1: Theory
You Just Don’t Understand Women and Men in Conversation by Deborah Tannen is basically an explanation on how women and men converse. Tannens main goal is to give advice to the different genders in order for them to avoid as much conflict as possible. Tannen’s main ideas are to explain how differently women and men react to each other’s way of being. It’s like they’re in their own little world while living in the same big world. Men tend to try to dominate….
In conclusion, Deborah Tannen balanced all three rhetorical appeals effectively to convince her audience. The author mostly used logos in her essay to back up her points. It was effective because she showed information and facts and demonstrated the audience could trust her. Tannen establishes credibility of her sources in her article by referencing facts, quotes, and people.….
Summary of “Understanding Mom”
In the article “Understanding Mom”, author Deborah Tannen conveys the relationship between her mother and herself, and the difference in personal values between the generations. Mrs. Tannen wanted an ordinary life for her daughter, whereas she wanted anything but ordinary. This may have caused disagreements through Tannen’s life growing up so differently than her mother.
As she expresses her disregard for makeup, her mother insists she wear it when in….
Malcolm X v.s. Deborah Tannen
Malcolm X and Deborah Tannen developed their ideas forty years apart. “Malcolm Little” was Malcolm X’s nick name (Malcolm X 85). Born in Omaha, Nebraska, in 1925, Malcolm X rose from a world of street crime to become one of the most powerful and articulate African American leaders in the United States during the 1960’s (Malcolm X 85). Born in 1945 in Brooklyn was Deborah Tannen (Tannen 192). She taught in different countries, different states and many different….
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Sex, Lies and Conversation
In the essay "sex, Lies, and conversation” Deborah Tannen deliberates about the variance in communication styles between men and women and how it originates the many problems in relationships and marriages leading to separation and divorce of most couples. There is more to communication differences than just basic stereotypes about the two genders, Deborah gives examples, experimental results and researches conducted to analyze and explain communication….