Imagine yourself in your ideal first date; you are dining, having the time of your life and the check suddenly appears on your table; to whom does it correspond? Adair Lara, the author of Who's Cheap, states as her thesis that men should be the ones who pay everything in order to jut out their generosity. She mentions different points of view that I agree upon, but her summarizing statement mentioned above did not persuade me. Generosity should reflect in both sexes, setting aside the stinginess.
Adair Lara establishes that the idea of men paying for things derives from previous generations where women had to depend on their spouse's salary. She points out two different types of men; the generous type and the stingy type. She believes that stinginess is a flaw that prevents men from rendering their money to rendering their affection. This type of man is a "skinflint" and a "cheap man". On the contrary, there can also exist men who result to be excessively generous. Sometimes the stinginess may reflect on the feminine side causing men difficulties to satisfy and impress them. As advice, she states that during a date, one should not pay matter to how the man should behave. But according to her personal thoughts, she believes that if she offers to split the expenses, the man will come to realize that it is his duty and obligation to pay the total cost himself, as a sign of his generosity.
I agree with the author when she says, "And besides, there's just something appealing about generosity," but not in the terms she is referring to. She is talking about men buying something for women, but I would like to make a correction by stating that generosity is a characteristic that should be developed by both. Men don't always have to buy us women things to symbolize their feelings. A gesture isn't always made through money, it is a special detail that can be given with no preference of what sex provides it. For example, my family lives with an economical crisis at hand....
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