Conflict and Struggles Teens and young adults are engaged in many different conflicts and struggles with their parents regarding various beliefs and values. In the essay “My Fathers Tribal Rule” by Mark Mathabane, he tells of his childhood where his father wanted his way and was not open to change. He wanted to bring his boys up the same way he was raised; Doing many different rituals and obeying all of his father’s household rules. Mathabanes father expected from Mathabane and his brother George, the same as his father did of him. Many times children in their teens and early twenties become engaged in conflict and struggle with their parents regarding personal beliefs and values. This experience is common because children at this age are trying to establish themselves in the world and are learning to think on their own. There are many different things that can cause disagreements but I have found house rules, friends and religion to be some of the most prominent ones. In our ****s we all have different rules for our children to live up to while under our roof. My two children are young adults now and our struggle with house rules is the curfew at night. They have a different definition of late than me and their step-dad. We require them to be at **** during the week by 10pm and on the weekend by 12 midnight. I feel that any later than that they are just asking for trouble. In Mathabanes situation, his father required them to be quiet while at the table. Mathabane says, “Iintentionally broke one of these laws: I talked while eating.” Here Mathabane is testing these house rules and is in turn given the punishment that breaking the house rule calls for. In my children’s case, I take their car keys for some time. Besides the curfew rule, our house has a friends rule. My children don’t really have a problem with my rules on what...
Cited: Mathabane, Mark. “My Father’s Tribal Rule.” The User’s Guide to College Writing; Reading, Analyzing, and Writing.2nd Edition. Eds.Kreml, Nancy M. et al. New York: Custom Publishing, 2008. 42-46. Print.
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